My in-laws
My father in-law demand a $3000 cheque from my husband. When my husband asked him what is it for, he said that it is for his son coming wedding. He needs it for the red packets.
My husband said something that I agreed very much. If you got a bit of money, never never never let my in-law knows about it. They will demand you to give it to them. They will said that it is rightly theirs.
I am wondering when will all these problems end.
My husband said something that I agreed very much. If you got a bit of money, never never never let my in-law knows about it. They will demand you to give it to them. They will said that it is rightly theirs.
I am wondering when will all these problems end.
 |
Wedding in December
My husband's younger brother is going to hold a wedding this coming December. At first, my mother in-law told my husband that she got no money to buy gold for her future daughter in-law. My husband sugguested that she take my wedding gold and pass them to her. My mother in-law disagreed.
My mother in-law kept calling my husband, now asking my husband to give her $2000 to buy gold for her daughter in-law. My husband is still very much in debt and now we got to think about our coming baby. $2000 is a lot to us. I did not say much about this matter, I only told my husband that the mother is his and the money is also his. He will decide what to do because no matter how loud I whine, things will not change.
Recently, my husband receive a cheque from his client after completing one of his project. My father in-law happen to know about this cheque. Now he is asking my husband to take out $10,000 for his brother wedding. He said he needs the money to buy gold and red packets. F*&%$%, what has my husband got to do with his brother wedding?
Today, my husband complained to me that now his father is asking for $20,000 instead of $10,000. I said nothing and I am glad that my own parents do not do this type of things to me.
My mother in-law kept calling my husband, now asking my husband to give her $2000 to buy gold for her daughter in-law. My husband is still very much in debt and now we got to think about our coming baby. $2000 is a lot to us. I did not say much about this matter, I only told my husband that the mother is his and the money is also his. He will decide what to do because no matter how loud I whine, things will not change.
Recently, my husband receive a cheque from his client after completing one of his project. My father in-law happen to know about this cheque. Now he is asking my husband to take out $10,000 for his brother wedding. He said he needs the money to buy gold and red packets. F*&%$%, what has my husband got to do with his brother wedding?
Today, my husband complained to me that now his father is asking for $20,000 instead of $10,000. I said nothing and I am glad that my own parents do not do this type of things to me.
|
Auspicious Dates For Chinese Wedding
If you are looking for websites that provide you auspicious dates for your chinese wedding, look no further. http://verywed.com/lunar is a very useful site. However, it is all in chinese character. You might need a language convertor to read if you are not so good with chinese.
|
Traditional Wedding Vows
I checked my blog. I think I have not posted this. If I am wrong, let me know.
Your wedding vows are your declaration of love to one another. It is where you publiclymake promises to each other. You can elect to use traditional vows or to write your own. Most religious ceremonies require you to use their traditional vows, but may allow you to personalise them. You should check with your officiant for guidelines. There are different types of wedding vows including traditional and non-traditional, religious, personalized, classic, humorous, and specialty vows. We have included below some traditional and religious wedding vows for you to read over.
If you need help in writing your own wedding vowls, refer to our " make your own vows"section to give you some ideas.
http://www.theweddingnetwork.com.au/weddingvows.htm
Your wedding vows are your declaration of love to one another. It is where you publiclymake promises to each other. You can elect to use traditional vows or to write your own. Most religious ceremonies require you to use their traditional vows, but may allow you to personalise them. You should check with your officiant for guidelines. There are different types of wedding vows including traditional and non-traditional, religious, personalized, classic, humorous, and specialty vows. We have included below some traditional and religious wedding vows for you to read over.
If you need help in writing your own wedding vowls, refer to our " make your own vows"section to give you some ideas.
http://www.theweddingnetwork.com.au/weddingvows.htm
|
Writing you own wedding Vows
Here is a great resource for you to use in writing your own wedding vows. There are pre-written examples, and helpful material which you can use in your creative process.
http://www.electpress.com/loveandromance/page45.htm
Another good resource will be at http://www.weddingclipart.com/guide/wedding-vows/Traditional-Wedding-Vows.html
http://www.electpress.com/loveandromance/page45.htm
Another good resource will be at http://www.weddingclipart.com/guide/wedding-vows/Traditional-Wedding-Vows.html
Get Your Own Bride & Groom Tee Shirts
You dun always get to be a bride or groom. So if you are a bride or groom now, wear a bride or groom tee shirt. Our brides & groom apparels are great for occasions like wedding rehearsals & weddings. If you think your bridesmaids need a tee shirt too, visit the bridesmaid's section.
Gender Jokes
You need a good laugh after all that wedding preparation? Visit this site. http://www.laughnet.net/gender.htm It got a good collection of gender jokes.
Create custom stickers.
Make every event memorable with Confoti! Create unique custom confetti or our NEW photo stickers from your own photos.
New Photo Stickers
Personalize your world with these custom photo stickers and show off your memories. Great for yourself or surprise someone with a one-of-a-kind gift!
http://www.confoti.com
New Photo Stickers
Personalize your world with these custom photo stickers and show off your memories. Great for yourself or surprise someone with a one-of-a-kind gift!
http://www.confoti.com
Our Wedding Story Book
The traditional wedding album does an outstanding job of capturing the photos of that special day, but what about all the major events that led up to your wedding and those that follow? We at Life Memories believe there is a fabulous story to tell about the day you met to your honeymoon and all that happens in between. A story told not only with pictures but with words, thoughts and feelings as well; a story told with Our Wedding Storybook System. Each book is professionally bound, full color, coffee table quality that will be a treasure today and for years to come.
http://www.ourweddingstorybook.com
WANDERFULS Centerpieces
This is a great idea for a center pieces as well as a wedding flavor.
WANDERFULS Centerpieces are the wedding centerpiece of choice for experts wanting an alternative to the traditional wedding favor as well as the wedding centerpiece made of flowers, sweet 16 centerpieces, bar mitzvah favors and centerpieces, floral centerpieces and keepsakes. Through combining the elegant wedding favor with the wedding centerpiece the bridal, wedding and event planner can achieve thousands of unique color effects. This site featuring Wanderfuls centerpieces contains authoritative information about Wanderfuls favors.
http://www.wanderfuls.com
Marriage license requirements for 50 US States.
What Makes Our Marriage Legal ?
Every state in the United States requires a license to legalize Marriage. You cannot get married without it. We'll tell you how to get that license in a minute. But follow the way this works...So you have your license. Now you get married. After the ceremony, both spouses and the Officient sign the marriage license (some states require a witness). The Officient then files for a certified copy of the marriage license and a marriage certificate. Often we get email asking the difference between the Marriage License and a Marriage Certificate. The marriage certificate is more of a keepsake. You will receive an original of both the certified license and the marriage certificate. This can take anywhere from to two weeks to a months time. Ask for a few extra copies of the marriage license (there is an extra fee) because whomever decides to change his/her name, must provide an original copy for official name changes with your Social Security and Driver's license. http://www.1800bride2b.com/articles/marriagelaws.htm
Every state in the United States requires a license to legalize Marriage. You cannot get married without it. We'll tell you how to get that license in a minute. But follow the way this works...So you have your license. Now you get married. After the ceremony, both spouses and the Officient sign the marriage license (some states require a witness). The Officient then files for a certified copy of the marriage license and a marriage certificate. Often we get email asking the difference between the Marriage License and a Marriage Certificate. The marriage certificate is more of a keepsake. You will receive an original of both the certified license and the marriage certificate. This can take anywhere from to two weeks to a months time. Ask for a few extra copies of the marriage license (there is an extra fee) because whomever decides to change his/her name, must provide an original copy for official name changes with your Social Security and Driver's license. http://www.1800bride2b.com/articles/marriagelaws.htm
How to Write a Thank You Note
We have touches on preparing speeches and links on writing invitation cards. Now it is time to say thank you to your guests. Here are some examples:
For gifts:
Dear XX,
Thank you very much for your thoughtful gift. We really appreciate your thoughtful/personal/generous/touching/wonderful gift. YY and I look forward to using it on holidays and special ocassions in our lifes.
We're glad that you were able to join us/We are so grateful for your gift/presence on our special day, and hope you had a good time. We look forward to seeing you again this summer. Again, thanks for your thoughtfulness.
Love,
YY & ZZ
For cheque or cash:
Dear XX,
Thank you so much for your generousity. YY and I are saving towards our new house (hoildays, furnitures, babies), and have added your gift to our special account.
(continue the same ending as above)
If the above is not helpful enough, visit http://www.themorningnews.org/archives/how_to/how_to_write_a_thankyou_note.php. It has a great article and examples on how to write a thank you note.
For gifts:
Dear XX,
Thank you very much for your thoughtful gift. We really appreciate your thoughtful/personal/generous/touching/wonderful gift. YY and I look forward to using it on holidays and special ocassions in our lifes.
We're glad that you were able to join us/We are so grateful for your gift/presence on our special day, and hope you had a good time. We look forward to seeing you again this summer. Again, thanks for your thoughtfulness.
Love,
YY & ZZ
For cheque or cash:
Dear XX,
Thank you so much for your generousity. YY and I are saving towards our new house (hoildays, furnitures, babies), and have added your gift to our special account.
(continue the same ending as above)
If the above is not helpful enough, visit http://www.themorningnews.org/archives/how_to/how_to_write_a_thankyou_note.php. It has a great article and examples on how to write a thank you note.
Who want to buy a Porsche?
A sixteen year-old boy came home with a Porsche and his parents began to fuss, "Where did you get that car???!!! He calmly told them, "I bought it today." "With what money?" demanded his parents? "We know what a Porsche costs." "Well," said the boy, "this one cost me fifteen dollars."
So the parents began to panic and asked. "Who would sell a car like that for fifteen dollars?" they said. "It was the lady up the street," said the boy. "I don't know her name; they just moved in. She saw me ride past on my bike and asked me if I wanted to buy a Porsche for fifteen dollars."
"Oh my Goodness," moaned the mother to the boys father, "John, you go right up there and see what's going on."
So the boy's father walked up the street to the house where the lady lived and found her out in the yard calmly planting petunias! He introduced himself as the father of the boy to whom she had sold a Porsche for fifteen dollars and demanded to know what was going on.
"Well," she said, "this morning I got a phone call from my husband. I thought he was on a business trip, but learned from a friend he has run off to Hawaii with his secretary. The secretary took his money and left him after they had arrived. He called me and claimed he was robbed and stranded. He asked me to sell his new Porsche and send him the money. So I did."
So the parents began to panic and asked. "Who would sell a car like that for fifteen dollars?" they said. "It was the lady up the street," said the boy. "I don't know her name; they just moved in. She saw me ride past on my bike and asked me if I wanted to buy a Porsche for fifteen dollars."
"Oh my Goodness," moaned the mother to the boys father, "John, you go right up there and see what's going on."
So the boy's father walked up the street to the house where the lady lived and found her out in the yard calmly planting petunias! He introduced himself as the father of the boy to whom she had sold a Porsche for fifteen dollars and demanded to know what was going on.
"Well," she said, "this morning I got a phone call from my husband. I thought he was on a business trip, but learned from a friend he has run off to Hawaii with his secretary. The secretary took his money and left him after they had arrived. He called me and claimed he was robbed and stranded. He asked me to sell his new Porsche and send him the money. So I did."
Free Wedding Classifieds
They have a great selection of online ads in the following categories:
Bridal Gowns & Fashion
Gifts & Registry
Catering & Cakes
Invitations & Thank You's
Diamonds & Jewelry
Music & Entertainment
Favors & Accessories
Photography & Video
Flowers & Decor
Travel & Honeymoons
Miscellaneous
They have lots of great deals, and you can even place ads online. http://www.freeweddingclassifieds.com
Bridal Gowns & Fashion
Gifts & Registry
Catering & Cakes
Invitations & Thank You's
Diamonds & Jewelry
Music & Entertainment
Favors & Accessories
Photography & Video
Flowers & Decor
Travel & Honeymoons
Miscellaneous
They have lots of great deals, and you can even place ads online. http://www.freeweddingclassifieds.com
Bridal Shower Ideas
Here are some bridal shower ideas and wedding reception ideas to help plan an event to remember... You will also find bridal shower and wedding reception invitations, party favors, wedding party supplies, attendant's gifts, and gifts for flower girl, ringbearer, parents of the bride and of the groom , and the bride and groom themselves. They have provided a wedding checklist too. Read more...
Etiquette Hell
Absolutely hysterical horror stories that will tell you what NOT to do at your wedding. http://www.etiquettehell.com
Make a Wish
I cannot stop laughing after I have read this. Enjoy!
A married couple in their early 60s were out celebrating their 35th wedding anniversary in a quiet, romantic little restaurant.
Suddenly, a tiny yet beautiful fairy appeared on their table and said, "For being such an exemplary married couple and for being faithful to each other for all this time, I will grant you each a wish."
"Ooh, I want to travel around the world with my darling husband" said the wife.
The fairy moved her magic stick and - abracadabra! - two tickets for the new QM2 luxury liner appeared in her hands.
Now it was the husband's turn.
He thought for a moment and said: "Well, this is all very romantic, but an opportunity like this only occurs once in a lifetime, so, I'm sorry my love, but my wish is to have a wife 30 years younger than me."
The wife and the fairy were deeply disappointed; but a wish is a wish.
So the fairy made a circle with her magic stick and - abracadabra! -
the husband became 92 years old !
LESSONS: fairies are always female
A married couple in their early 60s were out celebrating their 35th wedding anniversary in a quiet, romantic little restaurant.
Suddenly, a tiny yet beautiful fairy appeared on their table and said, "For being such an exemplary married couple and for being faithful to each other for all this time, I will grant you each a wish."
"Ooh, I want to travel around the world with my darling husband" said the wife.
The fairy moved her magic stick and - abracadabra! - two tickets for the new QM2 luxury liner appeared in her hands.
Now it was the husband's turn.
He thought for a moment and said: "Well, this is all very romantic, but an opportunity like this only occurs once in a lifetime, so, I'm sorry my love, but my wish is to have a wife 30 years younger than me."
The wife and the fairy were deeply disappointed; but a wish is a wish.
So the fairy made a circle with her magic stick and - abracadabra! -
the husband became 92 years old !
LESSONS: fairies are always female
Passion for Petals
Confetti Cones are becoming more and more popular with Brides and offer a charming and practical way of passing around confetti. The flower girls or bridesmaids would love the job of handing these out to your guests.
Passion for Petals delivers the most unique and stunning bougainvillea and freeze dried rose wedding petals & other natural ideas to make your occasion special. http://www.passionforpetals.com
Making a Veil
If you feel adventurous, or have some sewing experience and just need a few specific pointers, here are some basic instructions for making two types of veils. http://www.wegotgame.net/jen/veils.html
If you are not a DIY person, you can shop for your veils here
.
US Marriage Laws
Here is a site that tells you the laws in your state about getting married and what you need to do. Just click on UNITED STATES or where ever you are from and go from there. It has some other great information too. http://usmarriagelaws.com/cgi-bin/search/usa.cgi
Wrap With Us
Wedding favors are a great way to show appreciation to your guests. Wrap With Us is pleased to present to you quality wedding favors for weddings and other occasions at exceptionally low prices. All weddings and occasions are special that's why we sell a large selection of favors that can be used for christenings, baby shower favors, birthday party favors, sweet sixteen favors and wedding anniversary favors.
Men Were In Charge of Planning Weddings....Or Why They Shouldn't
There would be less "Oh Promise Me" and "Endless Love" and more "Louie, Louie" and "Money Money".
There would be a "Rehearsal Dinner Kegger" Party Bridesmaids would wear matching blue jean cut-offs and halter tops. They would have NO tan lines and more skin showing than not.
Tuxes would have team logos on the back and the Nike shoes would have matching team colors.
June Weddings would be scheduled around basketball play-offs.
Vows would mention cooking and sex specifically but omit that "forsaking all others" part.
The couple would leave the ceremony in a souped up '73 Charger or some other Mopar with racing tires and flame designs on the side of the car. Better yet, a Harley!
Idiots that tried to dance with the Bride (unless they were really old) would get punched in the head.
Big slobbery dogs would be eligible for the role of "Best Man".
There would be "Tailgate Receptions".
Outdoor weddings would be held during sporting events at half-time or between innings.
Ceremonies would be short and Honeymoons would be long.
Ceremonies and Honeymoons would be inexpensive compared to the cost of the Bachelor Party. Those strippers and liquor sure do add up.
Men wouldn't ask...."Well, what do you think, Dear, The Burgundy or the Wine colored?" They'd just grab extras napkins from their local pub or tavern.
Favors would be matchbooks and cigars. Better yet, free drink passes at the local lounge.
The brides dress would show cleavage, her navel and be form fitted to her ass.
Instead of a sit down dinner or a buffet, there would be a hog roast or buckets of chicken, pizza and plenty of barbecue.
No one would bother with that "Veil Routine". But they would insist the garter be as high up on her leg as it would go.
The bridal bouquet could be recycled from a previous funeral or something.
Invitations would read as follows.......Tom (Dick or Harry) is getting the old ball and chain.... He's getting married.
He either:
A.) knocked her up,
B.) couldn't get a different roommate, or
C.) caved in to her ultimatum.
Please meet the woman who will cook and clean for him for the rest of his life at Soldier Field Stadium on the 50 Yard Line at Half-time during Sunday's Game.
Please join us at the MoonLight Lounge after the game for Beer, Nacho's and Pizza. Oh Yeah... B.Y.O.B.
There would be a "Rehearsal Dinner Kegger" Party Bridesmaids would wear matching blue jean cut-offs and halter tops. They would have NO tan lines and more skin showing than not.
Tuxes would have team logos on the back and the Nike shoes would have matching team colors.
June Weddings would be scheduled around basketball play-offs.
Vows would mention cooking and sex specifically but omit that "forsaking all others" part.
The couple would leave the ceremony in a souped up '73 Charger or some other Mopar with racing tires and flame designs on the side of the car. Better yet, a Harley!
Idiots that tried to dance with the Bride (unless they were really old) would get punched in the head.
Big slobbery dogs would be eligible for the role of "Best Man".
There would be "Tailgate Receptions".
Outdoor weddings would be held during sporting events at half-time or between innings.
Ceremonies would be short and Honeymoons would be long.
Ceremonies and Honeymoons would be inexpensive compared to the cost of the Bachelor Party. Those strippers and liquor sure do add up.
Men wouldn't ask...."Well, what do you think, Dear, The Burgundy or the Wine colored?" They'd just grab extras napkins from their local pub or tavern.
Favors would be matchbooks and cigars. Better yet, free drink passes at the local lounge.
The brides dress would show cleavage, her navel and be form fitted to her ass.
Instead of a sit down dinner or a buffet, there would be a hog roast or buckets of chicken, pizza and plenty of barbecue.
No one would bother with that "Veil Routine". But they would insist the garter be as high up on her leg as it would go.
The bridal bouquet could be recycled from a previous funeral or something.
Invitations would read as follows.......Tom (Dick or Harry) is getting the old ball and chain.... He's getting married.
He either:
A.) knocked her up,
B.) couldn't get a different roommate, or
C.) caved in to her ultimatum.
Please meet the woman who will cook and clean for him for the rest of his life at Soldier Field Stadium on the 50 Yard Line at Half-time during Sunday's Game.
Please join us at the MoonLight Lounge after the game for Beer, Nacho's and Pizza. Oh Yeah... B.Y.O.B.
Tuxedo Wear for Babies and Pets
Looking for tuxedo or some formal wear for your little ones, or your pet dog or cat? Click on the above pictures to have a look. We have tuxedo T-shirts for your bridemaid as well. Keepsake Arts Tuxedo section
Another Joke
A man left work one Friday afternoon. But, since it was payday, instead of going home, he stayed out the entire weekend partying with the boys and spending his entire paycheck. When he finally appeared at home Sunday night he was confronted by a very angry wife and was barraged for nearly two hours with a tirade befitting his actions.
Finally his wife stopped the nagging and simply said to him, "How would you like it if you didn't see me for two or three days?" To which he replied, "That would be fine with me."
Monday went by and he didn't see his wife. Tuesday and Wednesday came and went with the same results. Come Thursday, the swelling went down just enough where he could see her a little out of the corner of his left eye.
Finally his wife stopped the nagging and simply said to him, "How would you like it if you didn't see me for two or three days?" To which he replied, "That would be fine with me."
Monday went by and he didn't see his wife. Tuesday and Wednesday came and went with the same results. Come Thursday, the swelling went down just enough where he could see her a little out of the corner of his left eye.
The Brides Bouquet
http://www.thebridesbouquet.com has the most exquisite collection of fine silk wedding flowers, bridal bouquets, corsages, and wedding accessories available.
Sick Husband
After several weeks of feeling lousy and in pain, John decided that he should finally see a doctor. He asked his wife, Mary, to join him. So after waiting for an hour, they entered the room of the specialist recommended by their friends.
The doctor examined John for more than a half hour, took blood test, x-rays and poked and prodded every available spot on his body.
After waiting an hour, the doctor asked Mary to come in to his office to speak privately.
"What Is It??" Mary asked
"Well, there is good news and bad news", said the doctor. "Your husband has a very rare disease, that if he gets very stressed is most likely to become fatal."
"Well, Whats the good news??" asked Mary.
"Practice has shown that if you, as his wife, make sure that his life is stress free, he can go on living a very healthy, normal life. What this means on a practical level is that you have to pamper him and do what he wants. If he gets upset, agree with him. Cook him his favorite foods regularly. Don't argue with him, even when you know you are right. Let him always think he is right and always be respectful of him. Be available regularly in the romantic department and fulfill all his wishes."
Stunned, Mary leaves and heads to the reception room, where John was impatiently waiting.
"So...." John asked, "What did the doctor tell you?? "
"You're gonna die!"
The doctor examined John for more than a half hour, took blood test, x-rays and poked and prodded every available spot on his body.
After waiting an hour, the doctor asked Mary to come in to his office to speak privately.
"What Is It??" Mary asked
"Well, there is good news and bad news", said the doctor. "Your husband has a very rare disease, that if he gets very stressed is most likely to become fatal."
"Well, Whats the good news??" asked Mary.
"Practice has shown that if you, as his wife, make sure that his life is stress free, he can go on living a very healthy, normal life. What this means on a practical level is that you have to pamper him and do what he wants. If he gets upset, agree with him. Cook him his favorite foods regularly. Don't argue with him, even when you know you are right. Let him always think he is right and always be respectful of him. Be available regularly in the romantic department and fulfill all his wishes."
Stunned, Mary leaves and heads to the reception room, where John was impatiently waiting.
"So...." John asked, "What did the doctor tell you?? "
"You're gonna die!"
Create your wedding Ceremony Wordings
http://members.aol.com/revlyon/ceremony.html has all the variations of wordings for the different ceremony parts. You are free to write phrases, statements of commitment and pledges of faith that mean something to you. There are generally five parts to the basic format. They are:
* The Welcome Address
* Declaration of Consent
* Vows
* Exchange of Rings
* Pronouncement of Marriage
* The Welcome Address
* Declaration of Consent
* Vows
* Exchange of Rings
* Pronouncement of Marriage
Themed Wedding
If you are looking for wedding stuffs that matches to the theme of your wedding, thenhttp://www.bridalpeople.com/SCats/17.asp offer a wide selection of items that cater to themed weddings. From butterfly to western themes, their wedding accessories and favors add a coordinating touch to your ceremony and reception decor. Whether your wedding will be at the beach in the summer, or a vintage cottage in the fall, you can make your day memorable with themed items that compliment your location and season."
DIY Bride
http://www.diybride.com has all kinds of do-it-yourself ideas and templates for tons of stuff- favors, flowers, decorations...for your wedding projects.
|
Conscious Wedding
A Conscious Bride is a Calm, Joyful, and Present Bride.
A Conscious Wedding is a Meaningful, Creative, and Loving Event.
Welcome to the Conscious Weddings web site! I would like to extend my personal welcome to you, as well as commend you for having the courage to delve beyond the superficial aspects of a wedding and dive into its emotional underbelly. What do I mean by emotional underbelly? I mean that in a culture that touts the wedding as the pinnacle of joy in a couple's - or family's - life, the grief, fear, confusion, and sense of aloneness that often accompany this event are pushed underground. So it has become something of a taboo in our culture to utter the words "grief" and "wedding" in the same breath. Yet how could grief and fear not be a part of this transition! We have the bride and groom letting go of their singlehood and stepping into one of the biggest commitments of their lives; we have the mothers of the bride and groom letting go of their "little ones" and possibly facing their own disappointments about their wedding or marriage; and we have girlfriends freaking out about panty hose color when really they're scared about losing, at least temporarily, their lifelong friend. In short, a wedding, as the rite of passage that it is, involves a loss and a gain, a death and a birth, an ending and a beginning. And in order to celebrate the joy and embrace the birth that a wedding and new marriage brings, we need to be willing to face our fears, honor our losses, and talk about more than napkin colors and flower arrangements as the big day nears.
http://www.consciousweddings.com
A Conscious Wedding is a Meaningful, Creative, and Loving Event.
Welcome to the Conscious Weddings web site! I would like to extend my personal welcome to you, as well as commend you for having the courage to delve beyond the superficial aspects of a wedding and dive into its emotional underbelly. What do I mean by emotional underbelly? I mean that in a culture that touts the wedding as the pinnacle of joy in a couple's - or family's - life, the grief, fear, confusion, and sense of aloneness that often accompany this event are pushed underground. So it has become something of a taboo in our culture to utter the words "grief" and "wedding" in the same breath. Yet how could grief and fear not be a part of this transition! We have the bride and groom letting go of their singlehood and stepping into one of the biggest commitments of their lives; we have the mothers of the bride and groom letting go of their "little ones" and possibly facing their own disappointments about their wedding or marriage; and we have girlfriends freaking out about panty hose color when really they're scared about losing, at least temporarily, their lifelong friend. In short, a wedding, as the rite of passage that it is, involves a loss and a gain, a death and a birth, an ending and a beginning. And in order to celebrate the joy and embrace the birth that a wedding and new marriage brings, we need to be willing to face our fears, honor our losses, and talk about more than napkin colors and flower arrangements as the big day nears.
http://www.consciousweddings.com
|
Wedding Crafts Page
This website is a compilation of various wedding-related craft projects to be found on the Web. It help you create beautiful projects that will make your wedding day more special! Some examples are, DIY invitation cards, wedding favors, flower girl baskets, ring pillow, and more. Read more...
A Store That Sells Husbands
A store that sells husbands has just opened in Dallas, TX where a woman may go to choose a husband from among many men. The store is comprised of 6 floors, and the men increase in positive attributes as the shopper ascends the flights.
There is however, a catch. As you open the door to any floor you may choose a man from that floor, but if you go up a floor, you cannot go back down except to exit the building. So a woman goes to the shopping center to find a husband.
On the first floor the sign on the door reads:
FLOOR 1 - These men have jobs.
The woman reads the sign and says to herself, "Well, that's better than my last boyfriend, but I wonder what's further up?" So up she goes.
The second floor sign reads:
FLOOR 2 - These men have jobs and love, kids.
The woman remarks to herself, "That's great, but I wonder what's further up?" And up she goes again.
The third floor sign reads:
FLOOR 3 - These men have jobs, love kids and are extremely good looking. "Hmmm, better" she says. "But I wonder what's upstairs?"
The fourth floor sign reads:
FLOOR 4 - These men have jobs, love kids, are extremely good looking and help with the housework.
Wow!" exclaims the woman, "very tempting. BUT, there must be more further up!" And again she heads up another flight.
The fifth floor sign reads:
FLOOR 5 - These men have jobs, love kids, are extremely good looking, help with the housework and have a strong romantic streak.
Oh, mercy me! But just think... what must be awaiting me further on?" So up to the sixth floor she goes.
The sixth floor sign reads:
FLOOR 6 - You are visitor 3,456,789,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping Husband Mart and have a nice day!
There is however, a catch. As you open the door to any floor you may choose a man from that floor, but if you go up a floor, you cannot go back down except to exit the building. So a woman goes to the shopping center to find a husband.
On the first floor the sign on the door reads:
FLOOR 1 - These men have jobs.
The woman reads the sign and says to herself, "Well, that's better than my last boyfriend, but I wonder what's further up?" So up she goes.
The second floor sign reads:
FLOOR 2 - These men have jobs and love, kids.
The woman remarks to herself, "That's great, but I wonder what's further up?" And up she goes again.
The third floor sign reads:
FLOOR 3 - These men have jobs, love kids and are extremely good looking. "Hmmm, better" she says. "But I wonder what's upstairs?"
The fourth floor sign reads:
FLOOR 4 - These men have jobs, love kids, are extremely good looking and help with the housework.
Wow!" exclaims the woman, "very tempting. BUT, there must be more further up!" And again she heads up another flight.
The fifth floor sign reads:
FLOOR 5 - These men have jobs, love kids, are extremely good looking, help with the housework and have a strong romantic streak.
Oh, mercy me! But just think... what must be awaiting me further on?" So up to the sixth floor she goes.
The sixth floor sign reads:
FLOOR 6 - You are visitor 3,456,789,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping Husband Mart and have a nice day!
Theme Wedding & Party Guide
The hottest party trend right now is incorporating themes. Make your event personalized and unforgettable...
* Are you aware of all your Italian or Catholic or Greek traditions?
* Create an Asian style bridal shower...
* Having an Interfaith ceremony?
* Need to find Country & Western party supplies or invitations?
ASK GINKA is a one-of-a-kind link directory. You don't have to spend hours searching for answers on the Web. All the research has been done for you and categorized in sections. Start your search by picking a Religion, Nationality, Theme or Holiday.
* Are you aware of all your Italian or Catholic or Greek traditions?
* Create an Asian style bridal shower...
* Having an Interfaith ceremony?
* Need to find Country & Western party supplies or invitations?
ASK GINKA is a one-of-a-kind link directory. You don't have to spend hours searching for answers on the Web. All the research has been done for you and categorized in sections. Start your search by picking a Religion, Nationality, Theme or Holiday.
Bridal Showers
Are you hosting a bridal or wedding shower? Have absolutely no clue on where to begin? Don't fret! Most showers have a theme or overall motif such as a "lingerie" or "time of the day" theme. There are many possibilities and the only limit you have is your imagination! Read more...
Woman Power
A woman was sitting at a bar enjoying an after work cocktail with her girlfriends when an exceptionally tall, handsome, extremely sexy middle-aged man entered. He was so striking that the woman could not take her eyes off him.
The young-at-heart man noticed her overly attentive stare and walked directly toward her. (As all men will.) Before she could offer her apologies for so rudely staring, he leaned over and whispered to her, "I'll do anything, absolutely anything, that you want me to do, no matter how kinky, for $20.00, on one condition." (There are always conditions.)
Flabbergasted, the woman asked what the condition was.
The man replied, "You have to tell me what you want me to do in just three words." (Controlling, huh?) The woman considered his proposition for a moment, then slowly removed a $20 bill from her purse, which she pressed into the man's hand along with her address.
She looked deeply into his eyes, and slowly and meaningfully said,...
"Clean my house."
The young-at-heart man noticed her overly attentive stare and walked directly toward her. (As all men will.) Before she could offer her apologies for so rudely staring, he leaned over and whispered to her, "I'll do anything, absolutely anything, that you want me to do, no matter how kinky, for $20.00, on one condition." (There are always conditions.)
Flabbergasted, the woman asked what the condition was.
The man replied, "You have to tell me what you want me to do in just three words." (Controlling, huh?) The woman considered his proposition for a moment, then slowly removed a $20 bill from her purse, which she pressed into the man's hand along with her address.
She looked deeply into his eyes, and slowly and meaningfully said,...
"Clean my house."
Flowers by Anne
This is a site with a huge collection of wedding flowers. Their design database allows you to search for specific color schemes, flower varieties or both. Read more...
At Least He Tried!
A husband walks into Victoria's Secret to purchase some sheer lingerie for his wife. He is shown several possibilities that range from $250 to $500 in price, the more sheer, the higher the price. He opts for the most sheer item, pays the $500 and takes the lingerie home.
He presents it to his wife and asks her to go upstairs, put it on and model it for him. Upstairs, the wife thinks, "I have an idea. It's so sheer that it might as well be nothing. I won't put it on, do the modeling naked, return it tomorrow and keep the $500 refund for myself."
So she appears naked on the balcony and strikes a pose. The husband says, "Good Lord! You'd think that for $500, they'd at least iron it!"
HE NEVER HEARD THE SHOT!!!!
HIS FUNERAL IS ON THURSDAY.
He presents it to his wife and asks her to go upstairs, put it on and model it for him. Upstairs, the wife thinks, "I have an idea. It's so sheer that it might as well be nothing. I won't put it on, do the modeling naked, return it tomorrow and keep the $500 refund for myself."
So she appears naked on the balcony and strikes a pose. The husband says, "Good Lord! You'd think that for $500, they'd at least iron it!"
HE NEVER HEARD THE SHOT!!!!
HIS FUNERAL IS ON THURSDAY.
Choosing Your Wedding Music
This is a great site with a great guide for selecting your ceremony music. There are short clips of the songs located on the website, as well as suggestions on where to put them in your ceremony.
The selection of music for your wedding ceremony is a very important process, but many couples don't know where to begin. That's what we're here for! We've designed this part of our website to acquaint you with some of the best music available for the various parts of the Catholic wedding liturgy. Choosing your wedding music will take a while, so you might want to come back and visit this music page several times before you finalize your selections. Read more...
The selection of music for your wedding ceremony is a very important process, but many couples don't know where to begin. That's what we're here for! We've designed this part of our website to acquaint you with some of the best music available for the various parts of the Catholic wedding liturgy. Choosing your wedding music will take a while, so you might want to come back and visit this music page several times before you finalize your selections. Read more...
Little Johnny and Jenny
Little Johnny and Jenny are only 10 years old, but they just know that they are in love. One day they decide that they want to get married, so Johnny goes to Jenny's father to ask him for her hand. Johnny bravely walks up to him and says "Mr. Smith, me and Jenny are in love and I want to ask you for her hand in marriage."
Thinking that this was just the cutest thing that he had ever heard, Mr. Smith replies, "Well Johnny, you are only 10. Where will you two live?" Without even taking a moment to think about it, Johnny replies "In Jenny's room. It's bigger than mine and we can both fit there nicely."
Still thinking this is just adorable, Mr. Smith says with a huge grin, "Okay then how will you live? You're not old enough to get a job. You'll need to support Jenny." Again, Johnny instantly replies, "Our allowance. Jenny makes 5 bucks a week and I make 10 bucks a week. That's about 60 bucks a month and that should do us just fine."
By this time Mr. Smith is a little shocked that Johnny has put so much thought into this. He thinks for a moment trying to come up with something that Johnny won't have an answer to. After a second, Mr. Smith says, "Well Johnny, it seems like you have got everything all figured out. I just have one more question for you. What will you do if the two of you should have little ones of your own?"
Johnny just shrugs his shoulders and says "Well, we've been lucky so far..."
Mr. Smith doesn't think the little **** is adorable anymore.
Thinking that this was just the cutest thing that he had ever heard, Mr. Smith replies, "Well Johnny, you are only 10. Where will you two live?" Without even taking a moment to think about it, Johnny replies "In Jenny's room. It's bigger than mine and we can both fit there nicely."
Still thinking this is just adorable, Mr. Smith says with a huge grin, "Okay then how will you live? You're not old enough to get a job. You'll need to support Jenny." Again, Johnny instantly replies, "Our allowance. Jenny makes 5 bucks a week and I make 10 bucks a week. That's about 60 bucks a month and that should do us just fine."
By this time Mr. Smith is a little shocked that Johnny has put so much thought into this. He thinks for a moment trying to come up with something that Johnny won't have an answer to. After a second, Mr. Smith says, "Well Johnny, it seems like you have got everything all figured out. I just have one more question for you. What will you do if the two of you should have little ones of your own?"
Johnny just shrugs his shoulders and says "Well, we've been lucky so far..."
Mr. Smith doesn't think the little **** is adorable anymore.
Wedding Favors: Magnets and Buttons
These buttons and magnets makes great wedding favor. You can even personalize them, put in your name and your hubby name, add the dates of your big day. After your big day, your guest will be sticking these magnets on their fridge. http://www.cafepress.com/keepsake_arts/610311
3 jokes
1. "Mr. Clark, I have reviewed this case very carefully," the divorce court Judge said, "And I've decided to give your wife $775 a week." "That's very fair, your honor," the husband said. "And every now and then I'll try to send her a few bucks myself."
2. An old man goes to the Wizard to ask him if he can remove a curse he has been living with for the last 40 years. The Wizard says, "Maybe, but you will have to tell me the exact words that were used to put the curse on you. The old man says without hesitation, "I now pronounce you man and wife."
3. The investigation of Martha Stewart continues. Her recipe for chicken casserole is quite efficient. First you boil the chicken in water. And then you dump the stock.
2. An old man goes to the Wizard to ask him if he can remove a curse he has been living with for the last 40 years. The Wizard says, "Maybe, but you will have to tell me the exact words that were used to put the curse on you. The old man says without hesitation, "I now pronounce you man and wife."
3. The investigation of Martha Stewart continues. Her recipe for chicken casserole is quite efficient. First you boil the chicken in water. And then you dump the stock.
Looking for a place to share your wedding album?
They have something like Webshots.
# Your very own URL (eg.www.MichaelandOlivia.com)
# A website created to celebrate your wedding day.
# An online facility to hold and view your wedding photographs.
# A simple registration process.
# A product that you and your family will be proud of!
http://www.webshareweddings.com
# Your very own URL (eg.www.MichaelandOlivia.com)
# A website created to celebrate your wedding day.
# An online facility to hold and view your wedding photographs.
# A simple registration process.
# A product that you and your family will be proud of!
http://www.webshareweddings.com
Something to think about
A puppy asked its mum, "mummy, what and where is my happiness?"
The mum said, "Your happiness is right under your tail."
So the puppy went around in circles, looking backwards, trying to chase its tail to see what happiness is.
After a few rounds the puppy felt tired and giddy and could not chase its tail anymore.
Disappointed, the puppy asked its mum, "mummy, I ran in circles as hard as I could but I still can’t find my happiness."
And mummy said, "all you need is to do is to look forward, walk straight, and happiness will follow closely after you."
And there lies the essence of "happiness".
The mum said, "Your happiness is right under your tail."
So the puppy went around in circles, looking backwards, trying to chase its tail to see what happiness is.
After a few rounds the puppy felt tired and giddy and could not chase its tail anymore.
Disappointed, the puppy asked its mum, "mummy, I ran in circles as hard as I could but I still can’t find my happiness."
And mummy said, "all you need is to do is to look forward, walk straight, and happiness will follow closely after you."
And there lies the essence of "happiness".
Muahahahaha, 2 More Free Wedding Speeches
2 More Free Wedding Speeches if you still cannot find a perfect one. I think I need to add another section of links to my right hand side just for speeches.
http://www.frugalbride.com/bridespeeches.html
http://www.frugalbride.com/bridespeeches.html
Funny Wedding Cards
If you wants to write something different on a wedding card, you may want to visit this site. http://www.funegreets.com/wedding/index11.htm.
Wedding Speeches Again.
I have attempted to set out for you, the basics of the traditional Wedding speeches.
These rules are not hard and fast and nowadays other people like to speak such as the Bride, the Chief Bridesmaid and the Father of the Groom. It is preferable to prearrange who is going to speak and the order, especially if there is a Toastmaster.
The Best man’s speech should be funny, but it should not be an extension of the Stag night and it will be better received by the family audience, if it is written accordingly.
It has also become more common to shorten the ordeal for the speakers, by holding the speeches before the meal. Personally, I think an audience who have had a nice meal and possibly a few drinks may be a more receptive audience.
http://mag.weddingcentral.com.au/weddings/speeches
These rules are not hard and fast and nowadays other people like to speak such as the Bride, the Chief Bridesmaid and the Father of the Groom. It is preferable to prearrange who is going to speak and the order, especially if there is a Toastmaster.
The Best man’s speech should be funny, but it should not be an extension of the Stag night and it will be better received by the family audience, if it is written accordingly.
It has also become more common to shorten the ordeal for the speakers, by holding the speeches before the meal. Personally, I think an audience who have had a nice meal and possibly a few drinks may be a more receptive audience.
http://mag.weddingcentral.com.au/weddings/speeches
Do you think this blog should have a new design?
Do you think this blog should have a new design? I am kind of tired of seeing this pink here. I have been looking around for ideas and sadly I have not seen any that I like.
Another Free Wedding Speeches
There are three generally accepted speeches usual to a wedding reception they are, bride's father's speech, the bridegroom's speech and lastly the best man's speech. No further speeches are required although other speeches are permissible; it is not unusual for example for the bridegroom's father to give a short speech of thanks to the host and hostess for the occasion, or the bride to have a "best woman" give a speech.
Oooooh! Another site with free speeches??? I am chocking.
Oooooh! Another site with free speeches??? I am chocking.
Free Wedding Speeches
Speech-making is a bit like prospecting for black gold. If you don't strike oil in 10 minutes, stop boring.
I'm told that the best speech makers follow three simple rules. Stand Up. Speak Up. Then, very quickly, Shut Up. I'll try to stick to that advice.
Quickly bring me to free wedding speeches, I need that badly!
I'm told that the best speech makers follow three simple rules. Stand Up. Speak Up. Then, very quickly, Shut Up. I'll try to stick to that advice.
Quickly bring me to free wedding speeches, I need that badly!
Indiebride
This is an interesting site for the independent-minded brides. It has a blog and a forum, lots of interesting essays that will make you laugh your head off. http://www.indiebride.com/index.html
10 husbands
A young man married a beautiful woman who had previously divorced ten husbands.
On their wedding night, she told her new husband, "Please be gentle, I'm still a virgin".
"What?" Said the puzzled groom. "How can that be if you've been married ten times?
"Well, husband #1 was a Sales Representative; he kept telling me how great it's going to be.
Husband #2 was in Software Services; he was never really sure how it was supposed to function, but he said he'd look into it and get back to me.
Husband #3 was from Field Services; he said everything checked out diagnostically but he just couldn't get the system up.
Husband #4 was in Telemarketing; even though he knew he had the order, he didn't know when he would be able to deliver.
Husband #5 was an Engineer; he understood the basic process but wanted three years to research, implement, and design a new state-of-the-art method.
Husband #6 was from Finance and Administration; he thought he knew how, but he wasn't sure whether it was his job or not.
Husband #7 was in Marketing; although he had a product, he was never sure how to position it.
Husband #8 was a psychiatrist; all he ever did was talk about it.
Husband #9 was a gynecologist; all he did was look at it.
Husband #10 was a stamp collector; all he ever did was.. ......God I miss him!
But now that I've married you, I'm so excited!"
"Good," said the husband, "but, why?"
"You're a Tax Man...... This time I KNOW I'm gonna get screwed!"
On their wedding night, she told her new husband, "Please be gentle, I'm still a virgin".
"What?" Said the puzzled groom. "How can that be if you've been married ten times?
"Well, husband #1 was a Sales Representative; he kept telling me how great it's going to be.
Husband #2 was in Software Services; he was never really sure how it was supposed to function, but he said he'd look into it and get back to me.
Husband #3 was from Field Services; he said everything checked out diagnostically but he just couldn't get the system up.
Husband #4 was in Telemarketing; even though he knew he had the order, he didn't know when he would be able to deliver.
Husband #5 was an Engineer; he understood the basic process but wanted three years to research, implement, and design a new state-of-the-art method.
Husband #6 was from Finance and Administration; he thought he knew how, but he wasn't sure whether it was his job or not.
Husband #7 was in Marketing; although he had a product, he was never sure how to position it.
Husband #8 was a psychiatrist; all he ever did was talk about it.
Husband #9 was a gynecologist; all he did was look at it.
Husband #10 was a stamp collector; all he ever did was.. ......God I miss him!
But now that I've married you, I'm so excited!"
"Good," said the husband, "but, why?"
"You're a Tax Man...... This time I KNOW I'm gonna get screwed!"
Jamaican Sandals
This married couple was on holiday in Jamaica. They were touring around the marketplace looking at the goods and such, when they passed this small sandal shop.
From inside they heard the shopkeeper with an Jamaican accent says "You foreigners! Come in. Come into my humble shop."
So the married couple walked in. The Jamaican said to them, "I have some special sandals I think you Would be interested in. Dey make you wild at sex."
Well, the wife was really interested in buying the sandals after what the man claimed, but her husband felt he really didn't need them, being the sex god he was.
The husband asked the man, "How could sandals make you into a sex freak?" The Jamaican replied, "Just try dem on, Man."
Well, the husband, after some badgering from his wife, finally gave in, and tried them on.
As soon as he slipped them onto his feet, he got this wild look in his eyes, something his wife hadn't seen in many years!!
In the blink of an eye, the husband grabbed the Jamaican, bent him violently over a table, yanked down his pants, ripped down his own pants, and grabbed a firm hold of the Jamaican's hips.
The Jamaican then began screaming, "YOU GOT DEM ON DE WRONG FEET!!!"
From inside they heard the shopkeeper with an Jamaican accent says "You foreigners! Come in. Come into my humble shop."
So the married couple walked in. The Jamaican said to them, "I have some special sandals I think you Would be interested in. Dey make you wild at sex."
Well, the wife was really interested in buying the sandals after what the man claimed, but her husband felt he really didn't need them, being the sex god he was.
The husband asked the man, "How could sandals make you into a sex freak?" The Jamaican replied, "Just try dem on, Man."
Well, the husband, after some badgering from his wife, finally gave in, and tried them on.
As soon as he slipped them onto his feet, he got this wild look in his eyes, something his wife hadn't seen in many years!!
In the blink of an eye, the husband grabbed the Jamaican, bent him violently over a table, yanked down his pants, ripped down his own pants, and grabbed a firm hold of the Jamaican's hips.
The Jamaican then began screaming, "YOU GOT DEM ON DE WRONG FEET!!!"
Wedding Gifts
I realise that I did not touch on any wedding gifts for your friends. Well, an introduction of one or two sites will not hurt since this is a blog mostly for brides and grooms. Here is something I found. Glass Dimensions They customise mother day gifts, anniversary gifts, engagement gifts, wedding shower and they have candles too.
Your single days can be the most exciting time of your life.
Your single days can be the most exciting time of your life. If you're not convinced yet, check out why us single women are loving it.
1. "You can do whatever you darn well please."
2. "Shave your legs and the razor is never dull from his face."
3. "Not only is your razor not dull, who needs to shave at all now?"
4. "You can leave bra and other unmentionables in view."
5. "You can slump around the house in any old thing."
6. "You don't having to think about birth control, calendars or ovulation. Aunt Flo can visit whenever she likes."
7. "You can go out and flirt as much as your heart desires, without a worry in the world."
8. "The toilet seat issue -- need I say more?"
9. "Free drinks at bars! Men seem to know when you're single and tend to be very generous."
10. "You can have male friends without having to defend yourself and explain that nothing else is going on."
11. "You can finally see all the good videos -- the romantic, cheesy films.
12. "No one grossing out over Tampax wrappers being anywhere in the house."
13. "You don't have to wear G-string panties unless you want to wear them."
14. "You can have sexual gratification at any time, not just when the sports games are over."
15. "You don't have to deal with anyone's grumpy, moody personalities."
16. "You can get the juice/cheese/toilet paper/videos/CDs/take-out that you want."
17. "You can spend as much time as you want with your family and nobody's lip will drag the ground."
18. "There is no one putting you on a tiny pedestal that you can fall off of at any moment, unless you are focusing on your balance all day long."
19. "You don't have to stroke the fragile male ego, and other things."
20. "No needless exposure to foulness, burping, gas and so on."
21. "Never worry if the milk carton has been directly drunk out of."
22. "You are free at a party or bar to talk to whom you please, and you don't always have to turn and say 'Hon, let's go over and talk to so and so.'"
23. "You can watch Oprah, Rosie, figure skating and cooking/decorating shows without having to defend yourself."
24. "You can buy what you want at the grocery store. So what if you want to have spaghetti four nights in a row?"
25. "You can talk to your girlfriends for hours on the phone without getting dirty, exasperated looks."
26. "No 'buddies' coming over for 'a couple of beers' then staying and commenting on Pamela Anderson all night (like any of them have a chance)."
27."You don't have to do laundry because he has no clean socks."
28."You no longer have to reassure him that he does indeed look like Brad Pitt"
29."Your dryer is no longer a fifth dresser drawer."
30."If you are depressed or mad at the world for a few minutes, you don't have to worry about having your 'outlook on life' analyzed."
31."You can buy something for yourself (a new dress, CD, shoes or whatever) without being asked, 'What do you need that for?'"
32."You can eat garlic or onions without a second thought about breath mints."
33."No one is going to get insulted when you spend the day at the beach checking out the lifeguards."
34."You can have eight hours of undisturbed sleep with the covers all to yourself."
35."You can go to bed in flannel and plaid rather than Frederick's and Victoria"
36."Your friends can sleep over and no sleazy 'Can I join in?' comments are made."
37. "You don't have to worry if he will or won't call."
38."No snoring!"
39. "You can have a clean bathroom with the toilet seat where you want it."
40."The best reason for being single is: Vibrators don't talk back, you can switch them off and on, and they don't stop until they are through serving their purpose."
1. "You can do whatever you darn well please."
2. "Shave your legs and the razor is never dull from his face."
3. "Not only is your razor not dull, who needs to shave at all now?"
4. "You can leave bra and other unmentionables in view."
5. "You can slump around the house in any old thing."
6. "You don't having to think about birth control, calendars or ovulation. Aunt Flo can visit whenever she likes."
7. "You can go out and flirt as much as your heart desires, without a worry in the world."
8. "The toilet seat issue -- need I say more?"
9. "Free drinks at bars! Men seem to know when you're single and tend to be very generous."
10. "You can have male friends without having to defend yourself and explain that nothing else is going on."
11. "You can finally see all the good videos -- the romantic, cheesy films.
12. "No one grossing out over Tampax wrappers being anywhere in the house."
13. "You don't have to wear G-string panties unless you want to wear them."
14. "You can have sexual gratification at any time, not just when the sports games are over."
15. "You don't have to deal with anyone's grumpy, moody personalities."
16. "You can get the juice/cheese/toilet paper/videos/CDs/take-out that you want."
17. "You can spend as much time as you want with your family and nobody's lip will drag the ground."
18. "There is no one putting you on a tiny pedestal that you can fall off of at any moment, unless you are focusing on your balance all day long."
19. "You don't have to stroke the fragile male ego, and other things."
20. "No needless exposure to foulness, burping, gas and so on."
21. "Never worry if the milk carton has been directly drunk out of."
22. "You are free at a party or bar to talk to whom you please, and you don't always have to turn and say 'Hon, let's go over and talk to so and so.'"
23. "You can watch Oprah, Rosie, figure skating and cooking/decorating shows without having to defend yourself."
24. "You can buy what you want at the grocery store. So what if you want to have spaghetti four nights in a row?"
25. "You can talk to your girlfriends for hours on the phone without getting dirty, exasperated looks."
26. "No 'buddies' coming over for 'a couple of beers' then staying and commenting on Pamela Anderson all night (like any of them have a chance)."
27."You don't have to do laundry because he has no clean socks."
28."You no longer have to reassure him that he does indeed look like Brad Pitt"
29."Your dryer is no longer a fifth dresser drawer."
30."If you are depressed or mad at the world for a few minutes, you don't have to worry about having your 'outlook on life' analyzed."
31."You can buy something for yourself (a new dress, CD, shoes or whatever) without being asked, 'What do you need that for?'"
32."You can eat garlic or onions without a second thought about breath mints."
33."No one is going to get insulted when you spend the day at the beach checking out the lifeguards."
34."You can have eight hours of undisturbed sleep with the covers all to yourself."
35."You can go to bed in flannel and plaid rather than Frederick's and Victoria"
36."Your friends can sleep over and no sleazy 'Can I join in?' comments are made."
37. "You don't have to worry if he will or won't call."
38."No snoring!"
39. "You can have a clean bathroom with the toilet seat where you want it."
40."The best reason for being single is: Vibrators don't talk back, you can switch them off and on, and they don't stop until they are through serving their purpose."
Beau-Coup.com
Dress up any event with one of these lovely table decorations. Many of our products are designed to be functional as well as decorative. Our blown glass salt and pepper shakers are practical favors that are lovely to look at. They’re great as take homes for your guests, perfect for dinner parties. Our pastel favor vases are a favorite for bridal showers and outdoor luncheons. The personal cheesecakes are almost too gorgeous to eat. Find fantastic ideas to add flair to your table setting right here. http://www.beau-coup.com/table-decorations.htm
Wedding Cakes
Here at Slattery's, we can create your wedding cake exactly the way you want it to be. Whether you choose a traditional style, contemporary design or a chocolate masterpiece your wedding cake can be a combination of designs or entirely your own creation.
We will be happy to advise you on how to incorporate your wedding colours into your chosen cake design: You may choose to use colour in detailed piping work or subtle brushing on the edges of a frill etc.
Flowers can also be used to bring your scheme together. Either hand made sugar, silks or fresh flowers can be used in your chosen colour and to match the wedding bouquet and flowers. Visit the site.
We will be happy to advise you on how to incorporate your wedding colours into your chosen cake design: You may choose to use colour in detailed piping work or subtle brushing on the edges of a frill etc.
Flowers can also be used to bring your scheme together. Either hand made sugar, silks or fresh flowers can be used in your chosen colour and to match the wedding bouquet and flowers. Visit the site.
FavorOnline
FavorOnline offers a hand picked selection of distinctive personalized favors that your guests will treasure. Our professional staff will craft unique wedding favors, bridal shower favors, baby shower favors, christening favors or any favor to help make your occasion 'very special'. http://www.favoronline.net
Marriage Builders site
This is the first site I have introduce here that has something to do with marriage instead of the one day event, wedding. I found this when I type "What do you do when you are really angry with your husband" in Google.
In this Marriage Builders® site, you will be introduced to some of the best ways to overcome marital conflicts and some of the quickest ways to restore love.
There are hundreds (thousands if printed) of very informative and free web pages waiting for you read behind this home page. You'll want to know where to find the help you need.
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/index.html
In this Marriage Builders® site, you will be introduced to some of the best ways to overcome marital conflicts and some of the quickest ways to restore love.
There are hundreds (thousands if printed) of very informative and free web pages waiting for you read behind this home page. You'll want to know where to find the help you need.
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/index.html
Shape-Up: Upper Body Toners
You've found the perfect dress. The perfect veil. Even the perfect shoes! There's only one thing missing -- the perfectly toned arms you've always craved. Okay -- we're not promising perfection (and you shouldn't aspire to it). But the following upper-body toning plan, designed by Pascale T. Solages, a nationally-certified fitness trainer at the Printing House Fitness and Racquet Club in New York City, is specifically tailored for the bride-to-be -- who will be wearing a dress that exposes her back, chest or shoulders on her big day. Read more...
Istana Wedding Services
This is a good place to find all kinds of information about how to plan your Malay theme wedding. Mr Hassan Ahmad have done a lot tentages project, mosque, Forum Perdana (religious), MUIS meeting, Ramadhan, school project, weddings, etc. Visit their website http://www.istanawedding.com.
Polaroid Pictures On Your Guest Book
I really regreted not doing this for my wedding. I guess I was too stress then. Well, make your guests take polaroid pictures before your wedding dinner and make them sign next to it. In this case you will know who has sign off with that unreadable signature.
http://www.i-zone.com & http://www.polaroid.com
http://www.i-zone.com & http://www.polaroid.com
Alfa Wedding.com
Shopping for wedding accessories and attendants gifts? Alfa Wedding.com online wedding superstore has thousands of different wedding accessories and attendants gifts for you to choose from, each in a variety of styles and colors. http://www.alfawedding.com
Woodsville Florist
Found another florist that do wedding decoration in Singapore. http://www.woodsville-florist.com/fProfile-Main.html
I got to remember to update the links on the right of the page someday.
I got to remember to update the links on the right of the page someday.
Magnets & Buttons As Wedding Favour
These are some magnets and buttons that can be used to say thank you to your guests for attending your wedding events.
If you are getting 100 or more of these magnets or buttons, they will be costing $1 each only. I am sure your guest will find it hard to throw away your wedding favours if you give them these.
 Double Xi Magnets 10 pack = $15 100 pack = $99.90 |  Double Xi Buttons 10 pack = $15 100 pack = $99.90 |
 Just Married Magnets 10 pack = $15 100 pack = $99.90 |  Just Married Buttons 10 pack = $15 100 pack = $99.90 |
If you are getting 100 or more of these magnets or buttons, they will be costing $1 each only. I am sure your guest will find it hard to throw away your wedding favours if you give them these.
Paper Crafts
If you are thinking of DIY your own wedding favours or wedding cards, you may want to visit http://www.paper-source.com for more inspiration. http://www.paperzone.com and http://www.inkogneato.com has lots of good ideas and http://www.geographics.com is another site to check out papers & templates. Wow!
Zelkovia
Zelkovia specialises in the designing and custom-making of accessories using crystal beads from Swarovski, natural stones, glass beads, etc. Accessories available are:
Bracelets
Bracelets with leaves
Necklaces - Simple, Formal, Grand
Earrings
Hair Accessories - Hair Pins,Hair Clips, Hair Sticks, Tiara
Charms - Handphone Charms, Lucky Charms
Others - Wine Charms, Wine Glass Charms, Bookmarks
Visit their site here.
Bracelets
Bracelets with leaves
Necklaces - Simple, Formal, Grand
Earrings
Hair Accessories - Hair Pins,Hair Clips, Hair Sticks, Tiara
Charms - Handphone Charms, Lucky Charms
Others - Wine Charms, Wine Glass Charms, Bookmarks
Visit their site here.
What Women Are Really Thinking?
Hello all you horny men out there! Shortly after releasing the "What Men Are Really Thinking" site, I received an overwhelming amount of letters asking for a female version. I sent out a general plea to talented female writers, but alas, no one heard my call... until now. In the fine tradition of the original, here is a collection of questions, and answers to the questions, that are asked by men, and directed towards women.
That being said, here is a comprehensive guide to what Women are thinking, as from the mind of the only female applicant that had any writing abilities whatsoever; A female that wishes to remain nameless... for reasons that should be painfully obvious to anyone who keeps reading... http://www.egodriven.net/women/default.htm
That being said, here is a comprehensive guide to what Women are thinking, as from the mind of the only female applicant that had any writing abilities whatsoever; A female that wishes to remain nameless... for reasons that should be painfully obvious to anyone who keeps reading... http://www.egodriven.net/women/default.htm
What Men Are Really Thinking?
I love women. Really, I do... They are such wonderful and powerful creatures... but you girls really do ask the stupidest questions... questions that you really don't want the answer to... I decided I want to help men everywhere by just putting all the answers to the questions in one spot. That way when you ask a stupid question, the closest person with a penis can just direct you here and save everyone else a whole lot of time. You're welcome. http://www.egodriven.net/men
Nice Quotes
I found two very nice quote in a magazine. Here they are.
1) I don't need a man. But I'm happier with one.
2) If you want anything said, ask a man. If you want anything done, ask a woman.
My favourite one is the second quote. I am thinking of printing it big and paste it in to bedroom. So which quote do you prefer?
1) I don't need a man. But I'm happier with one.
2) If you want anything said, ask a man. If you want anything done, ask a woman.
My favourite one is the second quote. I am thinking of printing it big and paste it in to bedroom. So which quote do you prefer?
Wedding Resources
Found another two sites with lots of wedding stuffs. http://www.bridesave.com & http://www.jeanmessentials.com
Flowers & Decor
For those of you looking for inspiration on flowers and decor, this site has some good pictures and ideas. Click here
Men
1. The nice men are ugly.
2. The handsome men are not nice.
3. The handsome and nice men are gay.
4. The handsome, nice and heterosexual men are married.
5. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men, have no money.
6. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men with money think we are only after their money.
7. The handsome men without money are after our money.
8. The handsome men, who are not so nice and somewhat heterosexual, don't think we are beautiful enough.
9. The men who think we are beautiful, that are heterosexual, somewhat nice and have money, are cowards.
10. The men who are somewhat handsome, somewhat nice and have some money and thank God are heterosexual, are shy and NEVER MAKE THE FIRST MOVE !!!
11.The men who never make the first move, automatically lose interest in us when we take the initiative.
NOW ....they think women are hard to understand!
Men are like a fine wine. They all start out like grapes and it's our job to stomp on them and keep them in the dark until they mature into something you'd like to have dinner with!
Marriage
Malin, Sarah
Buy This Allposters.com
2. The handsome men are not nice.
3. The handsome and nice men are gay.
4. The handsome, nice and heterosexual men are married.
5. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men, have no money.
6. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men with money think we are only after their money.
7. The handsome men without money are after our money.
8. The handsome men, who are not so nice and somewhat heterosexual, don't think we are beautiful enough.
9. The men who think we are beautiful, that are heterosexual, somewhat nice and have money, are cowards.
10. The men who are somewhat handsome, somewhat nice and have some money and thank God are heterosexual, are shy and NEVER MAKE THE FIRST MOVE !!!
11.The men who never make the first move, automatically lose interest in us when we take the initiative.
NOW ....they think women are hard to understand!
Men are like a fine wine. They all start out like grapes and it's our job to stomp on them and keep them in the dark until they mature into something you'd like to have dinner with!
Marriage
Malin, Sarah
Buy This Allposters.com
The Bridal Studio
http://www.leanna.com/Bridal The author has been helping brides look beautiful in their chosen gown for their special day for 20 years. The site talks about gowns and bridesmaid shopping rules and what to expect on your fittings. This is a good site for some gowns knowledge.
Senior with new Mercedes Convertible
A senior citizen in Florida bought a brand new Mercedes convertible.
He took off down the road, flooring it to 80 mph and enjoying the wind blowing what little hair he had left on his head.
"This is great.", he thought as he roared down I-75. He pushed the pedal to the metal even more. Then he looked in his rear view mirror and saw a highway patrol trooper behind him, blue lights flashing and siren blaring.
"I can get way from him with no problem" thought the man and he tromped it some more and flew down the road at over 100 mph. Then 110, 120 mph!
Then he thought, "What am I doing? I'm too old for this kind of thing." He pulled over to the side of the road and waited for the trooper to catch up with him.
The trooper pulled in behind the Mercedes and walked up to the man "Sir, he said, looking at his watch. " My shift ends in 30 minutes and today is Friday. If you can give me a reason why you were speeding that I've never heard before, I'll let you go."
The man looked at the trooper and said, "Years ago my wife ran off with a Florida state trooper, and I thought you were bringing her back." The trooper replied, "Sir, have a nice day."
He took off down the road, flooring it to 80 mph and enjoying the wind blowing what little hair he had left on his head.
"This is great.", he thought as he roared down I-75. He pushed the pedal to the metal even more. Then he looked in his rear view mirror and saw a highway patrol trooper behind him, blue lights flashing and siren blaring.
"I can get way from him with no problem" thought the man and he tromped it some more and flew down the road at over 100 mph. Then 110, 120 mph!
Then he thought, "What am I doing? I'm too old for this kind of thing." He pulled over to the side of the road and waited for the trooper to catch up with him.
The trooper pulled in behind the Mercedes and walked up to the man "Sir, he said, looking at his watch. " My shift ends in 30 minutes and today is Friday. If you can give me a reason why you were speeding that I've never heard before, I'll let you go."
The man looked at the trooper and said, "Years ago my wife ran off with a Florida state trooper, and I thought you were bringing her back." The trooper replied, "Sir, have a nice day."
My in-law took our 20 tables worth of angbows.
After reading others complain about their in-laws and their own parents, I started to think about my own and felt like crying again.
I wanted to complain again. My in-laws took our angbow money worth of $12000+++ and said that it is rightfully theirs because my parents took their part. In our culture, it is only right that the groom give the gal's parents a certain table of angbow money. My parents only asked for 5 tables. Lucky we did not get an expensive restuarant or we can declare bankcrupty after our wedding. I still remember that my father in-law wanted to change the dishes in the menu which will result in the price per table. He said he will give us an additional of $5000 but I never see the money. My bank account has been half because of this.
They were now all waiting for me to bear them their grandchildren at my own expenses. I must said that they were really cruel people and they think that this is the right thing I must do. I hope that their bad karma will take action soon. I know that it is very bad for me to say all these things but I am no god. I cannot complain anything to my hubby because it is not his fault and I do not want to make him difficult.
I wanted to complain again. My in-laws took our angbow money worth of $12000+++ and said that it is rightfully theirs because my parents took their part. In our culture, it is only right that the groom give the gal's parents a certain table of angbow money. My parents only asked for 5 tables. Lucky we did not get an expensive restuarant or we can declare bankcrupty after our wedding. I still remember that my father in-law wanted to change the dishes in the menu which will result in the price per table. He said he will give us an additional of $5000 but I never see the money. My bank account has been half because of this.
They were now all waiting for me to bear them their grandchildren at my own expenses. I must said that they were really cruel people and they think that this is the right thing I must do. I hope that their bad karma will take action soon. I know that it is very bad for me to say all these things but I am no god. I cannot complain anything to my hubby because it is not his fault and I do not want to make him difficult.
Customized Toothpick As Wedding Favour
"Pick On Us" specializes in customized toothpick packets. We have a variety of other products that will brighten any occasion including party picks, chopsticks, skewers, cocktail forks and more! You may want to consider printing both names on them and give them to your guest at your wedding. http://www.pickonus.com
Marriage Counselling
A husband and wife go visit a marriage counselor. First, the wife speaks to the counselor alone. The counselor asks, "You say you've been married 20 years, so what seems to be the problem?"
The wife replies, "It's my husband -- he's driving me crazy! I'm going to leave him if he continues!"
"How does he drive you crazy?"
"For 20 years," she says, "he's been doing these stupid things. First, whenever we go out, he's always looking at the floor and refuses to go near anyone. It's very embarrassing."
The marriage counselor is amused, "Anything else?"
"He keeps picking his nose all the time! Even in public!"
"Hmm, anything else?"
The wife hesitates, "whenever we're making love, he NEVER lets me be on top! Once in a while, I'd like to be in control!"
"Ah," says the counselor, "I think I'll talk to your husband now."
So the wife goes out of the room and the husband enters. The counselor tells him, "Your wife says that you've been driving her crazy. She might even leave you."
The husband looks shocked, "WHAT? For 20 years I've been loving and considerate and I've always given her what she wants! What could be the problem?"
The counselor explains, "She says that you've got these habits that are driving her crazy. First, you're always acting strange in public--looking at the floor and never going near anyone else."
The husband looks concerned, "Oh, you don't understand! It's one of the few things my father told me to do on his death bed and I swore I'd obey everything he said."
"What did he say?"
"He said that I should never step on anyone's toes!"
The counselor looks amused, "Actually, that means that you should not do anything that would cause anyone else to get angry."
The husband looks sheepish, "Oh. Okay."
The counselor continues, "And you keep picking your nose in public."
"Well, its another thing my father specifically commanded me to do! He told me to always keep my nose clean."
The counselor looks faint, "That means that you should not indulge in any criminal activity."
"Oh," says the husband looking very stupid.
"And finally, she says that you never allow her to be on top during your lovemaking."
"This," says the husband seriously, "is the last thing my father commanded me to do on his deathbed and it's the most important thing."
"What did he say?"
The husband replies, "In his dying breath, he said, 'Don't screw up.'"
The wife replies, "It's my husband -- he's driving me crazy! I'm going to leave him if he continues!"
"How does he drive you crazy?"
"For 20 years," she says, "he's been doing these stupid things. First, whenever we go out, he's always looking at the floor and refuses to go near anyone. It's very embarrassing."
The marriage counselor is amused, "Anything else?"
"He keeps picking his nose all the time! Even in public!"
"Hmm, anything else?"
The wife hesitates, "whenever we're making love, he NEVER lets me be on top! Once in a while, I'd like to be in control!"
"Ah," says the counselor, "I think I'll talk to your husband now."
So the wife goes out of the room and the husband enters. The counselor tells him, "Your wife says that you've been driving her crazy. She might even leave you."
The husband looks shocked, "WHAT? For 20 years I've been loving and considerate and I've always given her what she wants! What could be the problem?"
The counselor explains, "She says that you've got these habits that are driving her crazy. First, you're always acting strange in public--looking at the floor and never going near anyone else."
The husband looks concerned, "Oh, you don't understand! It's one of the few things my father told me to do on his death bed and I swore I'd obey everything he said."
"What did he say?"
"He said that I should never step on anyone's toes!"
The counselor looks amused, "Actually, that means that you should not do anything that would cause anyone else to get angry."
The husband looks sheepish, "Oh. Okay."
The counselor continues, "And you keep picking your nose in public."
"Well, its another thing my father specifically commanded me to do! He told me to always keep my nose clean."
The counselor looks faint, "That means that you should not indulge in any criminal activity."
"Oh," says the husband looking very stupid.
"And finally, she says that you never allow her to be on top during your lovemaking."
"This," says the husband seriously, "is the last thing my father commanded me to do on his deathbed and it's the most important thing."
"What did he say?"
The husband replies, "In his dying breath, he said, 'Don't screw up.'"
How business is done..........
Jack, a smart businessman, talks to his son
Jack: I want you to marry a girl of my choice
Son : "I will choose my own bride".
Jack: "But the girl is Bill Gates's daughter."
Son : "Well, in that case..."
Next Jack approaches Bill Gates
Jack: "I have a husband for your daughter."
Bill Gates : "But my daughter is too young to marry."
Jack: "But this young man is a vice-president of the World Bank."
Bill Gates : "Ah, in that case..."
Finally Jack goes to see the president of the World Bank.
Jack: "I have a young man to be recommended as a vice-president."
President : "But I already have more vice-presidents than I need."
Jack: "But this young man is Bill Gates's son-in-law."
President : "Ah, in that case....."
This is how business is done!!
Jack: I want you to marry a girl of my choice
Son : "I will choose my own bride".
Jack: "But the girl is Bill Gates's daughter."
Son : "Well, in that case..."
Next Jack approaches Bill Gates
Jack: "I have a husband for your daughter."
Bill Gates : "But my daughter is too young to marry."
Jack: "But this young man is a vice-president of the World Bank."
Bill Gates : "Ah, in that case..."
Finally Jack goes to see the president of the World Bank.
Jack: "I have a young man to be recommended as a vice-president."
President : "But I already have more vice-presidents than I need."
Jack: "But this young man is Bill Gates's son-in-law."
President : "Ah, in that case....."
This is how business is done!!
Lunar Year Divorce
An elderly man in Penang called his son in Hong Kong and said, "I hate to ruin your day, but I have to tell you that your mother and I are divorcing; forty-five years of misery is enough."
"Pop, what are you talking about?" the son screamed.
"We can't stand the sight of each other any longer," the old man said. We're sick of each other, and I'm sick of talking about this, so you call your sister in Canberra and tell her," and he hung up.
Frantic, the son called his sister, who exploded on the phone.
"Like heck they're getting divorced," she shouted, "I'll take care of this."
She called her dad immediately, and screamed at the old man, "You are NOT getting divorced! Don't do a single thing until I get there. I'm calling my brother back, and we'll both be there tomorrow. Until then, don't do a thing, DO YOU HEAR ME?" and hung up.
The old man hung up his phone and turned to his wife.
"Okay," he said, "they're coming for the reunion dinner and Lunar New Year and paying their own airfares."
"Pop, what are you talking about?" the son screamed.
"We can't stand the sight of each other any longer," the old man said. We're sick of each other, and I'm sick of talking about this, so you call your sister in Canberra and tell her," and he hung up.
Frantic, the son called his sister, who exploded on the phone.
"Like heck they're getting divorced," she shouted, "I'll take care of this."
She called her dad immediately, and screamed at the old man, "You are NOT getting divorced! Don't do a single thing until I get there. I'm calling my brother back, and we'll both be there tomorrow. Until then, don't do a thing, DO YOU HEAR ME?" and hung up.
The old man hung up his phone and turned to his wife.
"Okay," he said, "they're coming for the reunion dinner and Lunar New Year and paying their own airfares."
Men are like...
1. Men are like laxatives. They irritate the shit out of you.
2. Men are like bananas. The older they get, the less firm they are.
3. Men are like weather. Nothing can be done to change them.
4. Men are like blenders. You need One, but you're not quite sure why.
5. Men are like chocolate bars. Sweet, smooth, &they usually head right for your hips.
6. Men are like commercials. You can't believe a word they say.
7. Men are like department stores. Their clothes are always 1/2 off.
8. Men are like government bonds. They take soooooooo long to mature.
9. Men are like mascara. They usually run at the first sign of emotion.
10. Men are like popcorn. They satisfy you, but only for a little while.
11. Men are like snowstorms. You never know when they're coming,
how many inches you'll get or ! how long it will last.
12. Men are like lava lamps. Fun to look at, but not very bright.
13. Men are like parking spots. All the good ones are taken, the rest are handicapped.
2. Men are like bananas. The older they get, the less firm they are.
3. Men are like weather. Nothing can be done to change them.
4. Men are like blenders. You need One, but you're not quite sure why.
5. Men are like chocolate bars. Sweet, smooth, &they usually head right for your hips.
6. Men are like commercials. You can't believe a word they say.
7. Men are like department stores. Their clothes are always 1/2 off.
8. Men are like government bonds. They take soooooooo long to mature.
9. Men are like mascara. They usually run at the first sign of emotion.
10. Men are like popcorn. They satisfy you, but only for a little while.
11. Men are like snowstorms. You never know when they're coming,
how many inches you'll get or ! how long it will last.
12. Men are like lava lamps. Fun to look at, but not very bright.
13. Men are like parking spots. All the good ones are taken, the rest are handicapped.
The Natural Look
A clean natural look is the number one recommended style for today's bride. The natural look is the most preferred look because it enhances your features just enough to make you look radiant and beautiful without overemphasizing. Here are some step -by-step instructions to help you achieve a natural look that's right for you.http://www.mary-consultants-kay-cosmetics.com/wedding-day-tips.html
Match Your Lingerie To Your Gown
Lacy, beautiful and feminine, lingerie should be one of the most exciting parts of your wedding day ensemble. After all, the right underpinnings can whittle your figure, lift your bust and enhance the line and fit of your wedding dress. But many brides don't know what pieces work best for their figure. With the expert advice of Jeanie Peterson, owner of the Sol Bride Catalog and Solbride.com, we'll help you select the bridal lingerie that makes the most of your figure -- and your gown. http://wedding.weddingchannel.com/solbride/sol_article01.asp
A Wife's Diary vs Husband's Diary
WIFE's DIARY
Sunday night - I thought he was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a cafe to have some coffee. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment.
Conversation wasn't flowing so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk, he agreed but he kept quiet and absent. I asked him what was wrong - he said, "Nothing." I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said it had nothing to do with me and not to worry.
On the way home I told him that I loved him, he simply smiled and kept driving. I can't explain his behavior; I don't know why he didn't say, "I love u, too." When we got home I felt as if I had lost him, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there and watched TV; he seemed distant and absent.
Finally I decided to go to bed. About 10 minutes later he came to bed. I decided that I could not take it anymore, so I decided to confront him with the situation but he had fallen asleep. I started crying and cried until I too fell asleep. I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else.
My life is a disaster.
HUSBAND's DIARY
Today Manchester United lost the match. DAMN IT..!!
Sunday night - I thought he was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a cafe to have some coffee. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment.
Conversation wasn't flowing so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk, he agreed but he kept quiet and absent. I asked him what was wrong - he said, "Nothing." I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said it had nothing to do with me and not to worry.
On the way home I told him that I loved him, he simply smiled and kept driving. I can't explain his behavior; I don't know why he didn't say, "I love u, too." When we got home I felt as if I had lost him, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there and watched TV; he seemed distant and absent.
Finally I decided to go to bed. About 10 minutes later he came to bed. I decided that I could not take it anymore, so I decided to confront him with the situation but he had fallen asleep. I started crying and cried until I too fell asleep. I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else.
My life is a disaster.
HUSBAND's DIARY
Today Manchester United lost the match. DAMN IT..!!
|
USA Bride
Another great resources for wedding from USA. http://www.usabride.com It has a big list of articles on wedding that you cannot miss. http://www.usabride.com/easy_in.html
Bridal Hairstyles
Help! I can't decide on a hairstyle...
Ok, so choosing a hairstyle for your wedding day isn't exactly rocket science, so why is it soooooo difficult?! You want to look like you just stepped out of Hello magazine, but need a little bit of help. Well you may have come to the right place.... http://www.movingmakeup.co.uk/hair.htm
Ok, so choosing a hairstyle for your wedding day isn't exactly rocket science, so why is it soooooo difficult?! You want to look like you just stepped out of Hello magazine, but need a little bit of help. Well you may have come to the right place.... http://www.movingmakeup.co.uk/hair.htm
Singapore girls - a challenge to love
Star, Malaysia
February 13, 2005
Insight Down South By Seah Chiang Nee
EDUCATED and financially independent, the new Singaporean woman is running into a wall of male traditions that is leaving some holes in their relationship, including marriage.
The trend had been building up over a couple of decades. In few other countries have women made larger strides in education and careers than in Singapore.
During the past few decades they have caught up with, and even overtaken, men in fields they had once dominated.
In university, women still outnumber men 55-45 with many moving strongly into subjects like media, mathematics, law and engineering, among others.
Recently girls won seven of the top 11 awards for A-level Physics, which had long been a boys’ domain.
Island-wide, women have moved into the highest ranks of the corporate world and commanded artillery units or police divisions, as well as trained jetfighter pilots. Ten women, aged 20-40, are planning to climb Mount Everest.
In short, the new female is able, confident and more than holding up half the heavens, but not getting equal success in their relationship with men.
This is running smack into a traditional male value of wanting to be seen wearing the pants, causing a growing "incompatibility".
Better education has also led to the woman being perceived as too ambitious, self-centred and materialistic, not qualities that promote romance.
As a consequence, more men are choosing their brides from abroad, especially from China, Vietnam and most of all Malaysia, where historical links remain strong.
I attended five weddings in the last eight months that reflected the trend.
Four of the brides were from Malaysia and China and only one was local. I was told this was becoming a trend that government matchmakers have failed to correct.
One groom with a Johor bride said he had found Singaporean girls too materialistic and demanding. "One specifically set a condition: no living with my parents. She wasn’t happy dating on public buses."
The women’s relentless pursuit of a career had come at the expense of learning to do simple household chores like cooking, ironing or looking after babies.
"If you want to marry a Singapore girl you must be prepared to eat at hawker centres for life," one male cynic said.
A marriage agency owner told a radio interviewer how some of the girls had, on the first date, plied the men with questions like: What is your degree and earnings? Do you own a condo? "And they’re surprised when they didn’t get a second date," she said.
Others find them picky, untrusting and calculative towards love and marriage.
Results of recently released research have found that one in five Singaporean wives is hiding her assets from her husband for fear that he will squander them or in case the marriage fails.
This 20% here compares with France (7.2%), USA (7.6%), Brazil (9%), Romania (12%) and Britain (16.8%).
But there are more hoarders in Japan (38%), Saudi Arabia (32%) and China (21%).
It doesn’t inspire trust. Another sign is the increasing number of cases when a private detective is hired to check on the spouse.
Pre-marital contracts are also becoming more common among people who want to keep their assets out of their spouse’s reach in any divorce. Almost six out of 10 women say in a survey that they are not submissive, while two-thirds believe they could live without men.
The changing female attitude is, of course, only half the cause.
The other is the man sticking to a traditional view that it is his right as head to leave the babies and household work to his working wife. One in two women here have a job.
The social impact is a growing number of single women, especially university graduates.
A growing minority is marrying Westerners.
This has prompted a newspaper reader to urge her well-educated peers to revisit some the traditional feminine traits.
Her letter followed reports that more Singaporeans, including young professional males, were turning abroad for brides.
She said she had worked in Vietnam and found the girls there feminine, their speech melodious.
"They work hard without complaining, carrying loads of cloth and vegetables in the market stalls and food places. Simple, gentle and hardworking, it's hard not to fall in love with them," she added.
As for the Malaysian ladies, she finds them "neither loud nor argumentative, (but) pander to the boys' needs. Not as doormats, but as cheerful assistants, who see it as their obligation to help their men without expecting anything in return.
"Not that they are stupid - oh, no, the Malaysian girls I know are smart and hardworking, with careers of their own."
"But when it comes to matters of the heart, they play the docile, giggly girlfriend with as much aplomb as their Vietnamese counterparts. Again, it's easy to see where their attraction lies."
In contrast, the Singapore girl is twice as likely as her Malaysian or Vietnamese counterpart to stride away in a huff or throw water in the male's face or hold a public screaming or crying fit.
"The Singapore girl debates and argues impassionedly. She wants to win at all costs and treats her love conquests like those fought in the office arena. She may be pretty, yes, smart, yes, but, oh, so demanding."
The Singapore girl, in short, is a challenge to love, she added.
Although she may, at the end of the day, be a supportive and faithful spouse, the barbs hiding her soft interior are daunting to the suitor.
"She is materialistic, and loves being so. Shopping is a major hobby, and looking good is absolutely essential. The man is but another accessory, a helper, chauffeur, bag carrier."
There are, however, some 200,000 men who have a poor education and a low salary. Their prospect of marrying a Singapore girl is slim.
One emotional man said online: "I’m fed up with life. Can’t even find a date let alone a wife." For him and the rest, salvation lies in Vietnam or China.
Seah Chiang Nee is a veteran journalist and editor of the information website littlespeck.com
If you manage to read up to this paragraph, I will like to let you know that I have cut and paste this article from one of the forum. Comments are welcome.
February 13, 2005
Insight Down South By Seah Chiang Nee
EDUCATED and financially independent, the new Singaporean woman is running into a wall of male traditions that is leaving some holes in their relationship, including marriage.
The trend had been building up over a couple of decades. In few other countries have women made larger strides in education and careers than in Singapore.
During the past few decades they have caught up with, and even overtaken, men in fields they had once dominated.
In university, women still outnumber men 55-45 with many moving strongly into subjects like media, mathematics, law and engineering, among others.
Recently girls won seven of the top 11 awards for A-level Physics, which had long been a boys’ domain.
Island-wide, women have moved into the highest ranks of the corporate world and commanded artillery units or police divisions, as well as trained jetfighter pilots. Ten women, aged 20-40, are planning to climb Mount Everest.
In short, the new female is able, confident and more than holding up half the heavens, but not getting equal success in their relationship with men.
This is running smack into a traditional male value of wanting to be seen wearing the pants, causing a growing "incompatibility".
Better education has also led to the woman being perceived as too ambitious, self-centred and materialistic, not qualities that promote romance.
As a consequence, more men are choosing their brides from abroad, especially from China, Vietnam and most of all Malaysia, where historical links remain strong.
I attended five weddings in the last eight months that reflected the trend.
Four of the brides were from Malaysia and China and only one was local. I was told this was becoming a trend that government matchmakers have failed to correct.
One groom with a Johor bride said he had found Singaporean girls too materialistic and demanding. "One specifically set a condition: no living with my parents. She wasn’t happy dating on public buses."
The women’s relentless pursuit of a career had come at the expense of learning to do simple household chores like cooking, ironing or looking after babies.
"If you want to marry a Singapore girl you must be prepared to eat at hawker centres for life," one male cynic said.
A marriage agency owner told a radio interviewer how some of the girls had, on the first date, plied the men with questions like: What is your degree and earnings? Do you own a condo? "And they’re surprised when they didn’t get a second date," she said.
Others find them picky, untrusting and calculative towards love and marriage.
Results of recently released research have found that one in five Singaporean wives is hiding her assets from her husband for fear that he will squander them or in case the marriage fails.
This 20% here compares with France (7.2%), USA (7.6%), Brazil (9%), Romania (12%) and Britain (16.8%).
But there are more hoarders in Japan (38%), Saudi Arabia (32%) and China (21%).
It doesn’t inspire trust. Another sign is the increasing number of cases when a private detective is hired to check on the spouse.
Pre-marital contracts are also becoming more common among people who want to keep their assets out of their spouse’s reach in any divorce. Almost six out of 10 women say in a survey that they are not submissive, while two-thirds believe they could live without men.
The changing female attitude is, of course, only half the cause.
The other is the man sticking to a traditional view that it is his right as head to leave the babies and household work to his working wife. One in two women here have a job.
The social impact is a growing number of single women, especially university graduates.
A growing minority is marrying Westerners.
This has prompted a newspaper reader to urge her well-educated peers to revisit some the traditional feminine traits.
Her letter followed reports that more Singaporeans, including young professional males, were turning abroad for brides.
She said she had worked in Vietnam and found the girls there feminine, their speech melodious.
"They work hard without complaining, carrying loads of cloth and vegetables in the market stalls and food places. Simple, gentle and hardworking, it's hard not to fall in love with them," she added.
As for the Malaysian ladies, she finds them "neither loud nor argumentative, (but) pander to the boys' needs. Not as doormats, but as cheerful assistants, who see it as their obligation to help their men without expecting anything in return.
"Not that they are stupid - oh, no, the Malaysian girls I know are smart and hardworking, with careers of their own."
"But when it comes to matters of the heart, they play the docile, giggly girlfriend with as much aplomb as their Vietnamese counterparts. Again, it's easy to see where their attraction lies."
In contrast, the Singapore girl is twice as likely as her Malaysian or Vietnamese counterpart to stride away in a huff or throw water in the male's face or hold a public screaming or crying fit.
"The Singapore girl debates and argues impassionedly. She wants to win at all costs and treats her love conquests like those fought in the office arena. She may be pretty, yes, smart, yes, but, oh, so demanding."
The Singapore girl, in short, is a challenge to love, she added.
Although she may, at the end of the day, be a supportive and faithful spouse, the barbs hiding her soft interior are daunting to the suitor.
"She is materialistic, and loves being so. Shopping is a major hobby, and looking good is absolutely essential. The man is but another accessory, a helper, chauffeur, bag carrier."
There are, however, some 200,000 men who have a poor education and a low salary. Their prospect of marrying a Singapore girl is slim.
One emotional man said online: "I’m fed up with life. Can’t even find a date let alone a wife." For him and the rest, salvation lies in Vietnam or China.
Seah Chiang Nee is a veteran journalist and editor of the information website littlespeck.com
If you manage to read up to this paragraph, I will like to let you know that I have cut and paste this article from one of the forum. Comments are welcome.
Just like Mama!
Men
He didn't like the casserole
And he didn't like my cake.
My biscuits were too hard...
Not like his mother used to make.
I didn't perk the coffee right
He didn't like the stew,
I didn't mend his socks
The way his mother used to do.
I pondered for an answer
As I was looking for a clue.
Then I turned around and smacked him...
Like his Mother used to do.
- Author Unknown
He didn't like the casserole
And he didn't like my cake.
My biscuits were too hard...
Not like his mother used to make.
I didn't perk the coffee right
He didn't like the stew,
I didn't mend his socks
The way his mother used to do.
I pondered for an answer
As I was looking for a clue.
Then I turned around and smacked him...
Like his Mother used to do.
- Author Unknown
Seal the Deal and Make Him Commit
Found this article in my documents. I think it has appear in Female or Her World magazine. It is actually the summary of a book named "The rules"
Seal the Deal and Make Him Commit
BY ELLEN FEIN AND SHERRIE SCHNEIDER
Getting the man you want to propose -- and then turning that proposal into an actual wedding date -- can be a tougher deal to close than a media merger. Of course, if you've been following The Rules (the set of dating guidelines outlined in our book, The Rules: Time Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right, Warner Books, 1995) from the moment you met Mr. Right and he's said he loves you, he will propose -- sometimes in a matter of a few months but usually within 15 months. (He may have his own rules about dating for four seasons before popping the question, and there's nothing wrong with that.)
Don't Break These Rules
Following The Rules means letting him pursue you -- not seeing him more than two or three times a week, refusing to go away with him on weeklong vacations, and not moving in with him or crowding him in any way. If you've done all these things, you've actually helped him fall in love with you and want to marry you. He wants more of you, not less. And you will sense his desire to include you in his world. Within a year, if not sooner, he's figured out that he not only wants to marry you but has to marry you to see you more often, to really have you.
Your problem at this point is not if he's going to marry you but when. Men can happily date, commitment-free, for years! They are notorious for wanting to put off the actual engagement part until later. If he suggests living together first to see if you get along, tell him you're old-fashioned and want to wait until you're engaged or married.
Rules of Engagement
If he hasn't asked you to marry him within a year -- or two at the most -- you might have to shake things up a little bit. Go away for a weekend with a girlfriend, cancel a Saturday-night date, get very busy at work, mention that you are renewing your apartment lease, or be mysterious about some of the things you do. All of the above should make him anxious to propose. A man who is wary of commitment is made less wary by a woman moving away from, not toward, commitment. This isn't trickery. You're just giving him the space he needs. And if this doesn't work?
Ask him what his intentions are. If he says he has no plans to marry you, say okay and then never see him again. Men don't lie about things like this. He's not scared of commitment -- he doesn't want to marry you.
If he says he does plan to marry you someday, but he's not ready yet, then it's up to you to close the deal. Ask him when -- and if it's more than a year away, see less of him and think about dating others. You've already spent more than a year waiting for him to propose. Do you have another year to wait?
If you are already living together and he says he doesn't want to become engaged, make plans to move out. But don't say, "I'm moving out because you won't commit." Just say that you need more space and you heard about a great apartment. When a man doesn't want to commit and you do, leave him alone. If he doesn't try to get you back with a proposal, don't waste your time. If he asks what's going on, nonchalantly answer, "I don't know if this relationship is for me." If he can live without you, you don't want him. Move on.
Dignity-Saving Don'ts
Here are five things not to do if he says he doesn't want to marry you, no matter how tempting.
1. Don't tell him you're hurt or mad, and don't reprimand him for leading you on. You stayed with him -- take responsibility for your actions. And if you've been living with him, you allowed him to be with you indefinitely without making a commitment.
2. Don't suggest going to couples therapy to discuss why he can't commit. Men can and do commit when they love you and when you maintain your identity and self-esteem in the relationship. But they can become commitment-phobic when a woman has pursued them, is too available, or they're just not in love with her.
3. Don't let your man brainwash you into thinking that marriage isn't important - "just a piece of paper." If he does not want to marry you, then he's not that in love with you -- he wants the option of meeting someone else!
4. Don't let a man convince you that because he's been married before, he can't marry you or that you should give him time to recover from wife No. 1 or 2.
5. Don't let a man you have been dating for years convince you to wait until "things slow down" at work or he's better off financially to make a commitment. There will always be work and money issues in life. They should have nothing to do with marrying you.
When a man loves you and wants to marry you, he gets down on bended knee and says something like, "Look, I know I'm not a millionaire, but I love you and I'd do anything for you."
Be Willing to Walk
You've seen it happen: A man will date a woman for five years, claiming he has commitment issues, but after breaking up with her, he marries someone else in six months. If a man truly is in love with you, and your actions (not your words) tell him that you won't wait around forever, his commitment issues will disappear and he will propose.
If you are involved with a man for several years who isn't proposing, how much longer are you willing to wait? When a man knows that you will accept less than marriage, he is not motivated to commit himself fully. You must be willing to walk away.
Assuming you are engaged, how do you actually motivate him to take the walk down the aisle? Becoming engaged is no guarantee of marriage, so don't get lax about The Rules. Don't talk to him on the phone for hours every night -- and it's still best not to move in together. Engagements can be broken and wedding dates never set. Better he should miss you and move up the wedding date than feel claustrophobic as you take over his closet space.
Danger Signals
Be on the alert for any excuses your fianc--e might make or situations that might delay the marriage, such as:
1. He thinks being engaged is great, so why rush into marriage?
2. He's been married before, it was a disaster, and he's not anxious to tie the knot again. He gave you the ring so he doesn't lose you (so you won't sleep with anyone else), but he's happy with the way things are.
3. He's young and still likes to go out with his friends and doesn't want to be tied down. Although you convinced him to become engaged, you can't pin him down to a wedding date.
4. You were already living together when you got engaged, but you still don't have a wedding date set. What to do? In general, it's better to set a wedding date when you get engaged or soon after. Your engagement should last a year or less. If you're under 25, a two-year engagement is fine. If the engagement is dragging on, you may want to think about giving him back the ring and moving on. Perhaps he's not Mr. Right. Don't waste your time.
When Not to Close the Deal
Perhaps you're the one having second thoughts. He's proposed, but something just doesn't feel right, and you're thinking about breaking it off. What should you do? If you've thought about it carefully and discussed your decision with a therapist, good friends, or family members, we suggest that you always trust your instincts. Do not close the deal.
Don't feel silly, embarrassed, or guilty. Don't hate yourself or feel like a failure. Ending a relationship that isn't right is a learning and growing experience. Besides, you're not the first woman to change her mind or cancel a wedding. It happens. You tried, it didn't work out. Better to find out and disentangle yourself now than later.
After you've made up your mind, give yourself permission to grieve. Who wouldn't be upset? But don't give up on love or throw yourself in front of a bus. Keep the faith. You're a winner for being honest with yourself! Your real Mr. Right may be just around the corner, and when you meet him, you won't regret your breakups!
Seal the Deal and Make Him Commit
BY ELLEN FEIN AND SHERRIE SCHNEIDER
Getting the man you want to propose -- and then turning that proposal into an actual wedding date -- can be a tougher deal to close than a media merger. Of course, if you've been following The Rules (the set of dating guidelines outlined in our book, The Rules: Time Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right, Warner Books, 1995) from the moment you met Mr. Right and he's said he loves you, he will propose -- sometimes in a matter of a few months but usually within 15 months. (He may have his own rules about dating for four seasons before popping the question, and there's nothing wrong with that.)
Don't Break These Rules
Following The Rules means letting him pursue you -- not seeing him more than two or three times a week, refusing to go away with him on weeklong vacations, and not moving in with him or crowding him in any way. If you've done all these things, you've actually helped him fall in love with you and want to marry you. He wants more of you, not less. And you will sense his desire to include you in his world. Within a year, if not sooner, he's figured out that he not only wants to marry you but has to marry you to see you more often, to really have you.
Your problem at this point is not if he's going to marry you but when. Men can happily date, commitment-free, for years! They are notorious for wanting to put off the actual engagement part until later. If he suggests living together first to see if you get along, tell him you're old-fashioned and want to wait until you're engaged or married.
Rules of Engagement
If he hasn't asked you to marry him within a year -- or two at the most -- you might have to shake things up a little bit. Go away for a weekend with a girlfriend, cancel a Saturday-night date, get very busy at work, mention that you are renewing your apartment lease, or be mysterious about some of the things you do. All of the above should make him anxious to propose. A man who is wary of commitment is made less wary by a woman moving away from, not toward, commitment. This isn't trickery. You're just giving him the space he needs. And if this doesn't work?
Ask him what his intentions are. If he says he has no plans to marry you, say okay and then never see him again. Men don't lie about things like this. He's not scared of commitment -- he doesn't want to marry you.
If he says he does plan to marry you someday, but he's not ready yet, then it's up to you to close the deal. Ask him when -- and if it's more than a year away, see less of him and think about dating others. You've already spent more than a year waiting for him to propose. Do you have another year to wait?
If you are already living together and he says he doesn't want to become engaged, make plans to move out. But don't say, "I'm moving out because you won't commit." Just say that you need more space and you heard about a great apartment. When a man doesn't want to commit and you do, leave him alone. If he doesn't try to get you back with a proposal, don't waste your time. If he asks what's going on, nonchalantly answer, "I don't know if this relationship is for me." If he can live without you, you don't want him. Move on.
Dignity-Saving Don'ts
Here are five things not to do if he says he doesn't want to marry you, no matter how tempting.
1. Don't tell him you're hurt or mad, and don't reprimand him for leading you on. You stayed with him -- take responsibility for your actions. And if you've been living with him, you allowed him to be with you indefinitely without making a commitment.
2. Don't suggest going to couples therapy to discuss why he can't commit. Men can and do commit when they love you and when you maintain your identity and self-esteem in the relationship. But they can become commitment-phobic when a woman has pursued them, is too available, or they're just not in love with her.
3. Don't let your man brainwash you into thinking that marriage isn't important - "just a piece of paper." If he does not want to marry you, then he's not that in love with you -- he wants the option of meeting someone else!
4. Don't let a man convince you that because he's been married before, he can't marry you or that you should give him time to recover from wife No. 1 or 2.
5. Don't let a man you have been dating for years convince you to wait until "things slow down" at work or he's better off financially to make a commitment. There will always be work and money issues in life. They should have nothing to do with marrying you.
When a man loves you and wants to marry you, he gets down on bended knee and says something like, "Look, I know I'm not a millionaire, but I love you and I'd do anything for you."
Be Willing to Walk
You've seen it happen: A man will date a woman for five years, claiming he has commitment issues, but after breaking up with her, he marries someone else in six months. If a man truly is in love with you, and your actions (not your words) tell him that you won't wait around forever, his commitment issues will disappear and he will propose.
If you are involved with a man for several years who isn't proposing, how much longer are you willing to wait? When a man knows that you will accept less than marriage, he is not motivated to commit himself fully. You must be willing to walk away.
Assuming you are engaged, how do you actually motivate him to take the walk down the aisle? Becoming engaged is no guarantee of marriage, so don't get lax about The Rules. Don't talk to him on the phone for hours every night -- and it's still best not to move in together. Engagements can be broken and wedding dates never set. Better he should miss you and move up the wedding date than feel claustrophobic as you take over his closet space.
Danger Signals
Be on the alert for any excuses your fianc--e might make or situations that might delay the marriage, such as:
1. He thinks being engaged is great, so why rush into marriage?
2. He's been married before, it was a disaster, and he's not anxious to tie the knot again. He gave you the ring so he doesn't lose you (so you won't sleep with anyone else), but he's happy with the way things are.
3. He's young and still likes to go out with his friends and doesn't want to be tied down. Although you convinced him to become engaged, you can't pin him down to a wedding date.
4. You were already living together when you got engaged, but you still don't have a wedding date set. What to do? In general, it's better to set a wedding date when you get engaged or soon after. Your engagement should last a year or less. If you're under 25, a two-year engagement is fine. If the engagement is dragging on, you may want to think about giving him back the ring and moving on. Perhaps he's not Mr. Right. Don't waste your time.
When Not to Close the Deal
Perhaps you're the one having second thoughts. He's proposed, but something just doesn't feel right, and you're thinking about breaking it off. What should you do? If you've thought about it carefully and discussed your decision with a therapist, good friends, or family members, we suggest that you always trust your instincts. Do not close the deal.
Don't feel silly, embarrassed, or guilty. Don't hate yourself or feel like a failure. Ending a relationship that isn't right is a learning and growing experience. Besides, you're not the first woman to change her mind or cancel a wedding. It happens. You tried, it didn't work out. Better to find out and disentangle yourself now than later.
After you've made up your mind, give yourself permission to grieve. Who wouldn't be upset? But don't give up on love or throw yourself in front of a bus. Keep the faith. You're a winner for being honest with yourself! Your real Mr. Right may be just around the corner, and when you meet him, you won't regret your breakups!
M&M Chocolate As Your Wedding Flavour?
http://shop.mms.com/customized/printing/step1.asp#Now you can print your very own messages on M&M'S Milk Chocolate Candies and package them in creative ways! You may want to consider using them as your wedding flavour and print thank you messages on each chocolate for your guest.
Get Him to Commit
Get Him to Commit
REPORTED BY MARY K. MOORE
Sick of having to force him to have the where-is-this-relationship-going talk? Cosmo's traitor to the male species, Greg Gutfeld, reveals how to make him beg for a status report.
When it comes to discussing the future, men can yak up a storm -- but only if the topics are limited to our careers, sports, or the new kung-fu flick we want to go see this weekend. Shift the focus to relationships, and all speech function grinds to a halt. The throat gets parched. Dizziness ensues. We men start loosening our collars: Is it just me, or is it always this hot in here?
Now, the following strategies for getting him to bring up the subject all entail risk: Having The Talk, no matter who initiates it, might either scare him off or cause him to give you an answer you don't want to hear ("I don't want a commitment, but I'd love to continue having sex with you. Okay?"). But come on. You don't want to spend the rest of your life pining for some guy who thinks you're great to share a burger and a bed with but little else, right? The risk is generally worth taking.
Talk Tip 1
Take up extreme sports. Do that, and he may think he's losing you. The point here isn't so much that you risk your life but that you actually create more of a life outside his orbit. Canceling a date because you want to make him jealous is lame, but canceling a date because, hey, you've got your karate classes tonight and your flying lessons tomorrow, is sort of cool. Once there's something competing for your attention, he begins to wonder how much he really matters in your life scheme. All you're doing is filling up your time with cool stuff he might like to do, but you're not including him. He's got to wonder if you're drifting away, and in order to lay claim reasonably to more of your time, he'll have to be explicit about how much time he wants. In other words, he'll have to bring up The Talk.
Risk factor: Low, with regard to losing him; high, when it comes to your own personal safety, especially if you choose a hobby known for producing fatalities. (Hint: No guy -- no matter how great -- is worth scaling Everest for.)
Talk Tip 2
Take a vacation. Jetting off with nothing but a bikini and the promise of a postcard gives him a small taste of life minus you. Plus, the freedom to flirt when you're ostensibly single cuts both ways, and if he's into you, that'll stick in his craw. "When my girlfriend told me she was going on a cruise with three of her friends, I figured, cool -- three weeks of bachelor days ahead," says Todd James* (names have been changed), a 29-year-old New York City public-relations executive. But then he saw how excited she was about the trip. "She kept talking about how they were going to get crazy -- and two of her friends didn't have boyfriends. I doubted Amy was going to sit on the boat drinking pina coladas alone while they hit the town." Long story short: The night before she left, he initiated The Talk. "It was sort of a preemptive strike. I didn't want her to cheat on me," he said. "But it also made me think about losing her, and how I knew those three weeks would be pretty lonely. I did enough running around in college."
Risk factor: Medium to high. If he's a jerk, he may look at this as an opportunity for some bed-hopping, single-guy abandon. He may find he likes it better when you're not around and move to make it a permanent condition. If that happens, he's not worth the price of your return ticket. Besides, if you haven't had The Talk, no one's stopping you from staying on an extra week and having that little vacation fling with a lusty young cabana boy. If that's what you want, go for it.
Talk Tip 3
Act as if you've already had The Talk. In other words, take liberties. Adopt the role of the one and only girlfriend, fiancee, or whatever relationship status you aspire to. With our notorious lack of short-term memory, your guy may assume you two have already had The Talk, but he may not remember exactly when.
So, pick up groceries for him; ask him to do the same. Call him at work and say, "Sorry to bother you, but on the way home, could you buy some cream cheese, light bulbs, and some of those panty liners with wings?" You accomplish two things swiftly: Even if you live in two separate apartments, you've established that there is a "home" to go to (if he doesn't balk at your plea, consider that acceptance), and you've gotten him to share the shopping. Not too shabby.
Risk factor: High. If you're lucky, he might settle into his new cozy life without even noticing it. Or he might feel things are going too fast and say to you, "Jeez, I feel whipped," which is at least the start of something resembling The Talk, right? You can take it from there.
Talk Tip 4
Go out with your pal "Rocco." Men have a problem with so-called guy friends, men with whom women claim to have platonic relationships. In fact, I use the term so-called because guys don't believe there is such a thing as a guy friend, especially when it comes to a girlfriend they care about. That's because they know how they themselves think. They know straight men pony up to women to get laid, not to talk about feelings. Trust me, if your guy isn't a complete idiot, he will definitely feel threatened by your buddy Rocco.
Immediately, Rocco will be the most interesting individual on the planet. Your man will want to know why he's hanging around you. He'll want to know why you're hanging around him. He'll get jealous - we're all good at that -- and soon, he'll demand to meet him. All the while, you should act surprised by your guy's uncharacteristically possessive behavior and, if you like, even a little indignant. But if he feels threatened by another bear in his lair, then he's already aware he has a lot to lose. You're halfway there, and this little trick might get him to defend his turf.
Risk factor: High if Rocco doesn't exist. Wouldn't it be humiliating if your man decided to confront your imaginary friend? And if he does exist and your guy doesn't care, well, you've got to move on to a better strategy. Like, say, dumping him and dating Rocco.
Talk Tip 5
Make a major independent financial decision. Talk about buying a car, a plot of land, a house, or maybe a Cessna. The reason: You're making him aware that you don't need him to move your life forward. And if he asks you why you didn't consult him first about the decision, jokingly say, "It's not like we're married!" He'll have to respond with a request for clarification of exactly what he is to you, if he's going to have any say in your financial matters. That sounds like the start of The Talk.
If you don't have a bundle of green, just fake it. That's what glossy brochures for fancy summer homes and luxury automobiles are for. Simply leave them out on the coffee table (strewn over the remote) to let him know you're making big decisions he isn't privy to. Cool.
Risk factor: Low. The brochures won't scare him off, they will only make him feel a little left out. That's good.
Talk Tip 6
Ask him if he's ever been to Guam. Or New Mexico. Or Phoenix. "I hear they have giant lizards there," you might say, toying with your pasta. "I'd like to live where there are giant lizards." By contemplating a big move -- to another city, country, or hell, another apartment (and out of your shared bedroom) -- you show him you're antsy with the current setup. "We were talking about my job, and I told him I wasn't seeing a future here. He suggested sending resumes around town," says Jenna McCoy, 28, an accountant for a Philadelphia law firm. "He didn't get the hint. So I told him I needed to make a larger change, like maybe to another city, because I was stagnating. The first thing out of his mouth was 'Is it me?'"
"Maybe," you can reply. "I'm not sure." The point is to get him to argue about why it would be foolish for you to bail, or at least right now. This is, of course, when he must talk The Talk. If he doesn't, then you've got your answer.
Risk factor: High. He may call your bluff and say, "See, ya!" Then you will have to move on. No, not to Guam. Just out of his life. Or he may call your bluff and want to join you. The upside: You'll have to have The Talk before you move together to the land of lizards. The downside: You'll have to move to the land of lizards.
Talk Tip 7
Lastly, buy him a compass. Literally pick up a compass at a camping store, and attach a note that reads, "When you figure out where you're going, let me know. I may be here, but I may not. Love, (insert your name here)."
Risk factor: Sky high, but last resorts work because by the time you use them, you've had enough of the clueless bastard. If he walks, he walks, and then you're free to find someone who can talk The Talk.
REPORTED BY MARY K. MOORE
Sick of having to force him to have the where-is-this-relationship-going talk? Cosmo's traitor to the male species, Greg Gutfeld, reveals how to make him beg for a status report.
When it comes to discussing the future, men can yak up a storm -- but only if the topics are limited to our careers, sports, or the new kung-fu flick we want to go see this weekend. Shift the focus to relationships, and all speech function grinds to a halt. The throat gets parched. Dizziness ensues. We men start loosening our collars: Is it just me, or is it always this hot in here?
Now, the following strategies for getting him to bring up the subject all entail risk: Having The Talk, no matter who initiates it, might either scare him off or cause him to give you an answer you don't want to hear ("I don't want a commitment, but I'd love to continue having sex with you. Okay?"). But come on. You don't want to spend the rest of your life pining for some guy who thinks you're great to share a burger and a bed with but little else, right? The risk is generally worth taking.
Talk Tip 1
Take up extreme sports. Do that, and he may think he's losing you. The point here isn't so much that you risk your life but that you actually create more of a life outside his orbit. Canceling a date because you want to make him jealous is lame, but canceling a date because, hey, you've got your karate classes tonight and your flying lessons tomorrow, is sort of cool. Once there's something competing for your attention, he begins to wonder how much he really matters in your life scheme. All you're doing is filling up your time with cool stuff he might like to do, but you're not including him. He's got to wonder if you're drifting away, and in order to lay claim reasonably to more of your time, he'll have to be explicit about how much time he wants. In other words, he'll have to bring up The Talk.
Risk factor: Low, with regard to losing him; high, when it comes to your own personal safety, especially if you choose a hobby known for producing fatalities. (Hint: No guy -- no matter how great -- is worth scaling Everest for.)
Talk Tip 2
Take a vacation. Jetting off with nothing but a bikini and the promise of a postcard gives him a small taste of life minus you. Plus, the freedom to flirt when you're ostensibly single cuts both ways, and if he's into you, that'll stick in his craw. "When my girlfriend told me she was going on a cruise with three of her friends, I figured, cool -- three weeks of bachelor days ahead," says Todd James* (names have been changed), a 29-year-old New York City public-relations executive. But then he saw how excited she was about the trip. "She kept talking about how they were going to get crazy -- and two of her friends didn't have boyfriends. I doubted Amy was going to sit on the boat drinking pina coladas alone while they hit the town." Long story short: The night before she left, he initiated The Talk. "It was sort of a preemptive strike. I didn't want her to cheat on me," he said. "But it also made me think about losing her, and how I knew those three weeks would be pretty lonely. I did enough running around in college."
Risk factor: Medium to high. If he's a jerk, he may look at this as an opportunity for some bed-hopping, single-guy abandon. He may find he likes it better when you're not around and move to make it a permanent condition. If that happens, he's not worth the price of your return ticket. Besides, if you haven't had The Talk, no one's stopping you from staying on an extra week and having that little vacation fling with a lusty young cabana boy. If that's what you want, go for it.
Talk Tip 3
Act as if you've already had The Talk. In other words, take liberties. Adopt the role of the one and only girlfriend, fiancee, or whatever relationship status you aspire to. With our notorious lack of short-term memory, your guy may assume you two have already had The Talk, but he may not remember exactly when.
So, pick up groceries for him; ask him to do the same. Call him at work and say, "Sorry to bother you, but on the way home, could you buy some cream cheese, light bulbs, and some of those panty liners with wings?" You accomplish two things swiftly: Even if you live in two separate apartments, you've established that there is a "home" to go to (if he doesn't balk at your plea, consider that acceptance), and you've gotten him to share the shopping. Not too shabby.
Risk factor: High. If you're lucky, he might settle into his new cozy life without even noticing it. Or he might feel things are going too fast and say to you, "Jeez, I feel whipped," which is at least the start of something resembling The Talk, right? You can take it from there.
Talk Tip 4
Go out with your pal "Rocco." Men have a problem with so-called guy friends, men with whom women claim to have platonic relationships. In fact, I use the term so-called because guys don't believe there is such a thing as a guy friend, especially when it comes to a girlfriend they care about. That's because they know how they themselves think. They know straight men pony up to women to get laid, not to talk about feelings. Trust me, if your guy isn't a complete idiot, he will definitely feel threatened by your buddy Rocco.
Immediately, Rocco will be the most interesting individual on the planet. Your man will want to know why he's hanging around you. He'll want to know why you're hanging around him. He'll get jealous - we're all good at that -- and soon, he'll demand to meet him. All the while, you should act surprised by your guy's uncharacteristically possessive behavior and, if you like, even a little indignant. But if he feels threatened by another bear in his lair, then he's already aware he has a lot to lose. You're halfway there, and this little trick might get him to defend his turf.
Risk factor: High if Rocco doesn't exist. Wouldn't it be humiliating if your man decided to confront your imaginary friend? And if he does exist and your guy doesn't care, well, you've got to move on to a better strategy. Like, say, dumping him and dating Rocco.
Talk Tip 5
Make a major independent financial decision. Talk about buying a car, a plot of land, a house, or maybe a Cessna. The reason: You're making him aware that you don't need him to move your life forward. And if he asks you why you didn't consult him first about the decision, jokingly say, "It's not like we're married!" He'll have to respond with a request for clarification of exactly what he is to you, if he's going to have any say in your financial matters. That sounds like the start of The Talk.
If you don't have a bundle of green, just fake it. That's what glossy brochures for fancy summer homes and luxury automobiles are for. Simply leave them out on the coffee table (strewn over the remote) to let him know you're making big decisions he isn't privy to. Cool.
Risk factor: Low. The brochures won't scare him off, they will only make him feel a little left out. That's good.
Talk Tip 6
Ask him if he's ever been to Guam. Or New Mexico. Or Phoenix. "I hear they have giant lizards there," you might say, toying with your pasta. "I'd like to live where there are giant lizards." By contemplating a big move -- to another city, country, or hell, another apartment (and out of your shared bedroom) -- you show him you're antsy with the current setup. "We were talking about my job, and I told him I wasn't seeing a future here. He suggested sending resumes around town," says Jenna McCoy, 28, an accountant for a Philadelphia law firm. "He didn't get the hint. So I told him I needed to make a larger change, like maybe to another city, because I was stagnating. The first thing out of his mouth was 'Is it me?'"
"Maybe," you can reply. "I'm not sure." The point is to get him to argue about why it would be foolish for you to bail, or at least right now. This is, of course, when he must talk The Talk. If he doesn't, then you've got your answer.
Risk factor: High. He may call your bluff and say, "See, ya!" Then you will have to move on. No, not to Guam. Just out of his life. Or he may call your bluff and want to join you. The upside: You'll have to have The Talk before you move together to the land of lizards. The downside: You'll have to move to the land of lizards.
Talk Tip 7
Lastly, buy him a compass. Literally pick up a compass at a camping store, and attach a note that reads, "When you figure out where you're going, let me know. I may be here, but I may not. Love, (insert your name here)."
Risk factor: Sky high, but last resorts work because by the time you use them, you've had enough of the clueless bastard. If he walks, he walks, and then you're free to find someone who can talk The Talk.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)